To not want to move to Birmingham?

[sorrymissjacksonn]

OH is from Birmingham all his family and friends are there.
We live about 30 mins out of Birmingham in a small town my mums here on her own so I don't really want to leave her.

I love our home our area has less crime rates compared to an area we would be able to afford in Birmingham.

I'm worried about my kids growing up there. He says I'm not thinking about him because he has to do a short 30 minute commute everyday.

His mum and family are full on if we move in near them they will be round everyday.

And I hate the accent even though I have unfortunately started picking it up

I've lived there and hated it, YANBU. Each to their own but I've lived in a few places and Birmingham by far was the worst experience.

Voicing an opinion on an accent is not childish, especially not when you would have to live there and listen to it on a daily basis. No need to get offended.

It's not really up to you whether I or anyone else gets offended, is it? And ‘having’ to listen to it? It’s not a sodding smoke alarm no one has turned off.

I love the accent personally.

30 minute commute is fuck all

Born in london and lived there till 8 years old, lived in Brum till i was 30 and now live on outskirts of Brum. I still don't have an accent, ive been asked quite often where im from. OH takes the mick saying LO will be a yam yam, i say id rather he have a yam yam accent then his cockney one.
Which area are you moving to?

I love the accent and I love Brum but I understand not wanting to move.

I think the Black Country accent is a bit more roly poly than the Brum accent. Brummies sound a little more clipped but that’s just to my ear.

I love the accent but hate all cities. prefer small towns. 30 minutes is nothing commute wise. Just refuse and tell him he can move back to his mums if he’s that keen

How did he end up living in your town in the first place?

@CoughLaughFart if you're offended that's completely your problem and not mine. I am entitled to have an opinion on an accent the same that anyone else is allowed to have an opinion on mine, and often do. With worse comments than what has been said here. The difference is I get over it and don't choose to make a fuss as I acknowledge not everyone has the same opinion.

If you live somewhere, chances are you're going to regularly hear the accent of the area. It's not like a radio station that you can just switch over.

30 mins commute is reasonable. Moving so his family can be in & out all the time would stop it feeling like home to me.

So you incur all the costs of moving, away from a home where you and your children are happy, and close to your mum, to a city where there have been 86 shootings this year already, and all because your dh has a 30 min commute.
The accent would be the last of my concerns.

Black Country/Wolverhampton area are the yam yams, so called because the conjugation of the verb ‘to be’ for them goes:
I am
you am (yam)
He/she/it am
We am (wim)
You am
They am

As an outsider it definitely feels like Black Country is just a bit more dialect than accent compared to brummie.

I do live in Brum. Born and bred and live about 30 minutes from the city centre. Slowly, Brum has become a dump, nice areas have turned bad.

The best thing about living in Birmingham, is that you are central to anywhere in the country.

I disagree with you about the accent, I love it and think it sounds friendly, imo.

I find the people friendlier in Birmingham. But overall it is a bit depressing. There are not many nice areas albeit Edgebaston, Licky, and Sutton Coldfield it ok I suppose. But no, I would not be best pleased moving. Especially to save on a 30 mum commute. You sure there's no other reason OP?.

CoughLaughFart if you're offended that's completely your problem and not mine.

You’ve got plenty of problems of your own.

I love the accent, honestly I find it so funny and endearing. I could move to Birmingham for the accent alone. The shopping is also pretty good.

It does seem to rain a lot there though. No wonder they connected all the shopping centres so you never need to go outdoors.

Where does he want you to move to? I'm in Birmingham suburb but 40 mins by car, guessing if your 30 mins away your closer than me, look at Sutton,Lea marston, coleshill or knowle & dorridge, 10 mins on train to city centre and all have the village feel xxx

He's lucky he only has a 30 minute commute. He's not thinking of you or the DC, he's only thinking of himself. Why on earth would you move away from your home town when everyone (apart from him) is quite happy there?
Say no and stay put.

@CoughLaughFart so because I don't like an accent I've got problems? What a strange point of view. Perhaps you could do with getting your head examined.

YABU

Birmingham has a lot going for it. If you want to be a snob and miss out then that’s your problem. There are some really excellent schools, lots of opportunity and development.

Your attitude is outdated. This isn’t the 80s. Brum is no longer a post industrial sink hole. It’s got Selfridges, John Lewis and some of the best shopping, eating out, family activities and nightlife in the country.

If you’re moving from Redditch the only way is up.

A 30 min commute is not long and not a good reason to move. Liking where you live and being near your Mum are good reasons to stay put. Stay.

I live 2 miles from city centre in a naice area. Don't presume commute will be shorter. If I have to do city centre for 9, I walk.
Stay where you are if you feel like that. Plenty of folks happy to pay the frankly ridiculous prices like me and have a fab quality of life with tons going on of all varieties

30 mins? That's not really much of a commute. We live about that from Birmingham simply because work can be anywhere in the country. It's not my cup of tea where we are (small town). But, as with most other places 30 mins from Birmingham means fairly great transport links to the rest of the country. Which is great for friends, family, weekends away and future job prospects. To move into Birmingham to negate such a small distance wouldn't be worth it.

I'm from Birmingham originally (don't live there anymore, but go back often to see family)

Personally I would not recommend it. Most of my friends from school have left / are keen to get out.

Feels like people who want to stay in the area are making the opposite move, for example towns like Tamworth, Litchfield, Worcester etc. are popular places to move to.

OP, care to share where you are from, and where your other half expects you to move to?

I grew up there (great Barr) and by a strange set of circumstances I’ve ended up living where ex is from and he and 2 of my kids are living too close for my liking and I hate it. I wouldn’t move there by choice.

Too close to Birmingham I meant