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To announce our babies name over Christmas dinner

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BJacks86 · 24/12/2018 17:44

Just is it unreasonable/disrespectful feel it will be a fun way to tell a lot of the family when they are together.

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BJacks86 · 24/12/2018 20:00

Its me DH, our daughters, my parents, my brother (single) and my other brother and his wife. So 5 adults on top of the regular family unit :)

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LaurieMarlow · 24/12/2018 20:02

Are you naming it Pigzin-Blanketts? That’s all I can focus on during Christmas dinner

Died laughing at this Grin

Seriously OP, I wouldn't.

For some reason people feel free to share their big opinions about names before the baby is born, but usually keep their traps shut when baby arrives.

bsc · 24/12/2018 20:02

Also, my brother told us his pfb's name as soon as she was born... only for SIL to announce the next day three completely different names from what he'd said! Shock
So, y'know, you might have a change of heart when you meet baby.

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BJacks86 · 24/12/2018 20:04

Pigzin-Blanketts Could make a wonderful middle name! Maybe if I suddenly go into labour tomorrow!

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TheBigBangRocks · 24/12/2018 20:04

Nobody will care and it will just look like it's all about me me me.

I thought it was going to be a off given the announcement of name but no baby yet not a third child.

Ilikeviognier · 24/12/2018 20:05

I totally wouldn’t. Don’t give people the chance to comment until you have named the baby already after he or she is born- and then it’s too late for comments anyway.

Thishatisnotmine · 24/12/2018 20:07

Only parentimg advice that should ever be given: do not talk about names until the baby is born.

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BJacks86 · 24/12/2018 20:07

To answer previous question we are naming her Etta :)

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WhoGivesADamnForAFlakeyBandit · 24/12/2018 20:08

DH announced I was pregnant at Christmas dinner once. The only acknowledgement was MIL asking if I could pass the potatoes Grin My poor brother waited a few hours and then whispered "did that really just happen..." So don't think that just because you are surrounded by family anything is a good idea.

Notonthestairs · 24/12/2018 20:10

If somebody asks "have you settled on a name?" then I'd tell them. It's not that a big deal. I wouldn't halt dinner and make a speech about it Grin (well maybe during Christmas pud - I hate Christmas pud).

Grinchly · 24/12/2018 20:16

Etta?

Better than Pigzin, Sprout or Atta turk(y)

It's still a bit awful to announce it though. I'd wait till it's born.

FuzzyCustard · 24/12/2018 20:17

I knew an Etta - her nickname was "biscuits". But Pigzin-Blanketts is just as good!

ollhe · 24/12/2018 20:19

If someone did this in my family I would think it was a nice thing and understand why you would choose this moment. Not conventional but not ridiculous.

But I’d be worried that anyone who didn’t like the name would feel more able to say so before the baby came. (This is why we’re personally not telling anyone this time around).

I love Etta by the way!

JenFromTheGlen · 24/12/2018 20:22

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Littleraindrop15 · 24/12/2018 20:23

Oh my god I had no idea you couldn't name the baby before the birth!!!

I've already been using the name and all my friends and family know. I didn't know it wasn't done damn.

ThatWasThat · 24/12/2018 20:25

Pigzin Panc-Etta

JudasPrudy · 24/12/2018 20:26

@Littleraindrop15 it only matters if you still live in the 1950s.

SassitudeandSparkle · 24/12/2018 20:29

Nobody has said that thought have they Littleraindrop, just about announcing the name over Christmas dinner Hmm

SoupDragon · 24/12/2018 20:29

Etta Pigzin-Blankett?

callmeadoctor · 24/12/2018 20:30

I personally wouldn't. (On the "just in case" scenario, sorry)

Gooseygoosey12345 · 24/12/2018 20:35

I don't this it's a bad thing to do that. My family would love it. But I still think it's nicer to wait until he/she is born

Chucky16 · 24/12/2018 20:35

Christmas dinner is not the place to make this announcement, nowhere is until the baby is born. If Etta is seriously the name you are going with you will likely get some comments about it! I don’t mean that in a nasty way, but it is a more unusual name, normally a shorter version of other names.
Do not do this as it looks like trying to make the day about you and you may not get the excitement you were looking for. This will also take some of the excitement away from the birth and everyone finding out about the sex and name as it isn’t a surprise any more. Also, take it from me, if you tell them but are hoping to keep it in the family till baby makes it’s appearance, it will become public knowledge.
Anyway, what about dh’s family, If you make an announcement like this, they are being left out, which can then cause upset and accusations of telling others and not them!

Barbie222 · 24/12/2018 20:41

No, I wouldn't, I think people are going to think you're a bit baby blinkered. Wait until it arrives. I hate the thought of announcing anything, I'm more of a leak out round the edges person now.

Dillydallyalltheway · 24/12/2018 20:45

A couple of years ago my niece was expecting her 3rd baby. At the 20 week scan they were told it was a girl and from that day onwards bump was called by her name. Finally due date came, baby I was born and they had to deal with the fact that actually it was a boy not a girl. It completely confused the othEr 2 children as much as the oldest daughter wouldn’t go near mum or the baby because it wasn’t her sister. Obviously I’m not saying this is going to happen but personally I think you should wait. Good luck and enjoy baby xx

PoutySprout · 24/12/2018 20:46

An aside, but is there any way you can wait a bit longer for your section? 1st week of January is a horrendous time for a birthday - worse than Christmas Eve.