We are going to my lovely bro and SIL for Christmas day, due to arrive around 12, which means leaving here around 11. We are staying with them for a couple of days. My MIL is coming too.
DS13 wants to do ParkRun with his godfather (lives local to us but has atrocious timekeeping!). DH has told him this is fine, loads of time to fit it all in. And has made me feel like a complete Grinch for saying there isn't time.
I think it is madness, it means him being ready to go out the door here at 0815, won't be back here until 1030 (most weekends he goes they are not back until at least 11).
We won't have space (with MIL and overnight bags) to fit presents in the car, so what do we do? Open everything by 0815? Leaving the presents for when we get home on 27th feels wrong to me, but DH reckons it is fine 
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If DH takes DS, instead of godfather collecting him, he can get away promptly, but leaves me marshalling younger child, MIL, loading car etc.
He wanted to do it last year and got told no because of timing. And then it turned out there would just about have been time, but no MIL with us, so more space for stuff...
I just feel damned either way here. I either have to deal with an upset son, or suck up the extra pressure.
AIBU to say no to ParkRun. Or do I just need to relax and go with the flow? If we are late, so be it etc.
(There is a very long back story involving me being very low contact with my parents, who are also coming to my brother's tomorrow; my MIL and parents barely ever meet; therefore my stress levels are already pretty well elevated!)