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To ask if showing your lady parts is "a thing"

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Polkapjs · 23/12/2018 15:34

A millennial friend has told me about “you know that thing when you show each other your vaginas?” And on seeing my shocked face didn’t say much more other than to explain she’s been showing a colleague at the work’s party and now is embarrassed
Is the comparison even a thing? Is this normal. It was delivered in a way which suggested it was totally normal like comparing hand size...
So tell me - have I been living under a rock? I’d no sooner display my wares than poke needles in my eyes

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CuppaSarahsCuppaChristmasCheer · 23/12/2018 17:14

My best friend and I will get changed together and warn each other to look away when knickers are changed. We also share a cubicle on a night out. So I've seen her genitals breifly, but we certainly haven't shown them to each other and had a good old compare or anything.

CSIblonde · 23/12/2018 17:15

Well, I've stood aghast at the free bar carnage of many a corporate Christmas do (drinking til passing out & blue, alcohol fuelled fights/mayhem resulting in a lifetine ban from a prestigious 5 star Hotel ) but never vagina comparing! I can only think the drunken chats/'sharing' in the ladies loo went a bit too far....

arranbubonicplague · 23/12/2018 17:17

I can well imagine the reaction I would get if I suggested having a peek!

Would that be, Step away from the Babycham and Re-reading Our Bodies Ourselves will not recapture the 70s ?

Aeroflotgirl · 23/12/2018 17:17

Not normal in our friendship group, privates are private around here.

KeepServingTheFestiveSnogs · 23/12/2018 17:19

Like a PP said, I've seen many boobs, but not so many bits.

We've often pee'd together too. But I don't think anyone's ever looked!

TheDowagerCuntess · 23/12/2018 17:21

Vulva is the bit you’d see in any case. Not vagina.

That's been pointed out several times now.

MyBreadIsEggy · 23/12/2018 17:21

Colleagues? No.
Very close friend who does waxing/spray tans for me and another close friend? They’ve seen my fanny more than my own DH.
Pretty sure this isn’t a “thing” people just do at the office party Confused

dorisdog · 23/12/2018 17:22

No one's seen my lady parts, except the person I have sex with! Oh, and the cervical smear nurse...(and the midwife, but that was a while ago and I was high as a kite.)

Merryoldgoat · 23/12/2018 17:25

Vagina? Or muff?

I’ve never looked and seen a friend’s vag as that involves quite close contact...

Muffs, on the other hand, seen loads. But not to compare. More of an incidental when getting dressed, swimming, etc.

E.g. if I was at a weekend party, a friend and I would share the bathroom and shower in turns so would see each other smokeless. We wouldn’t nip off for that purpose.

HTH.

MyBreadIsEggy · 23/12/2018 17:25

Forgot to add, for colleagues in a “normal” job it strikes me as very odd.
But when I was in the army, there’s no such thing as shower or toilet privacy. Communal showers mean most of the females in the regiment will have seen me in my birthday suit/peeing in a bush/crapping in a hole, at some point in my career Blush

Believeitornot · 23/12/2018 17:26

Maybe they just wanted to see yours.

FuckBrussel · 23/12/2018 17:32

Good God, yes, EVERYBODY's seen mine.

I have to show it as ID when I'm buying alcohol, tp prove I'm over 21.

Seriously, though - no, never. I remember going for a sauna at Uni with a female friend who was considerable less inhibited than me, though - I was sitting there wondering if I dared take my towel off, looked round to see what she was doing, and she was completely naked and squatting on one of the high benches, right in my eyeline, with her knees around her ears. That was...a surprise.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 23/12/2018 17:33

Was she exchanging photos with a transwoman (man pretending to be a transwoman)?

Polkapjs · 23/12/2018 17:33

I’m so glad I asked. Much merriment

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SecretWitch · 23/12/2018 17:38

Christ, I hope not. Mine looks like two mice fighting in a bag.

fartfacemcfartfaceface · 23/12/2018 17:40

This millennial minge has stayed firmly under wraps. It's not something i like to wave in people's faces. Not a thing AFAIK.

smurfy2015 · 23/12/2018 17:43

My best friend has seen mine, we have been friends since babies, we shared a house for 5 years,

one day I was in bathroom and was doing a lot of balancing trying to get a tampon out as I lost the string, overbalanced and whacked my head on the side of the bath and knocked myself out, when I came around she was looking at me and asked me what I was doing (cos she obv wasnt in bathroom with me at first only after she heard a crash bang) and

I said I had lost the string on tampon, she said would have a go at getting it out and she tried her best no go, she rang Dr's surgery and explained I had just whacked my head and would they check me out, she put me in car and down to Drs where I was very staggering and out of it,

Dr asked me what was happening when before I went out, I couldn't remember at that point so friend explained I was trying to get a tampon out where the string was lost and she had tried to get it out but no joy, (I had mumbled something to her that it was there for 5 days) which she relayed to the Dr so helped me up on bed and he spent the next 20 mins trying to get it out before calling in his colleague, friend sat with me all the time and was trying to keep me talking,

as I was so out of it, the colleague did get it out after a few minutes but they had an ambulance on the way as weren't fully sure that the confusion could be part of toxic shock or not or from the bang, it turned out to be from the bang, friend went home and packed me a bag for hospital and followed the ambulance, I was in with concussion for 5 days -

Fond it funny as apparently as she tried to get the tampon out, I kept mumbling about squirrels and how they were going using the toilet, so every time we saw a squirrel after that we cracked up laughing

I've also seen hers when she had her first baby, she had a couple of people in the room to support her, me, her mum and her husband,

Nothing to be embarrassed about in our cases but no wouldn't show my parts to anyone in general except partner, however when I've had a paralysis attack from a condition I have so happens regularly before I had carers, my partners mum helped me to use a bottle to pee in several times, partner helped when he was able, carers also see my parts on a regular basis but its a needs must, I've accompanied my partners mum when she was having tests on her cervix, saw it on a screen - I've sat at top end and held her hand

smurfy2015 · 23/12/2018 17:45

Not a normal thing with everyone, the majority of people haven't seen mine and I don't intend to show them

The80sweregreat · 23/12/2018 17:49

My ds2 works with a man whose g/ f does this all the time apparently. I know I'm getting on a bit but I'm not that easily shocked ( usually) but I was by this! Why would you do this? People would pay me to put mine away forever!

Auldspinster · 23/12/2018 17:51

I've been naked with an old schoolfriend and a couple of her male colleagues on a night out but we weren't comparing vulvas. Then again we're gen Xers.

Juells · 23/12/2018 17:54

smurfy2015

friend explained I was trying to get a tampon out where the string was lost and she had tried to get it out but no joy

Hmm
BehemothPullsThePeasantsPlough · 23/12/2018 17:55

Boobs yes, with a surprisingly large number of female work colleagues for various reasons. Genital regions, no, even when sharing hotel rooms.

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 23/12/2018 17:59

I think the last friends fanny I saw was my cousins. This was approximately age 5 or 6 when our parents used to stick us in the bath together. Not normal imo.

MrsTommyBanks · 23/12/2018 18:00

I've never shown my personal parts to anyone, other than sexual partners and medical professionals.
I did have a look a my bbf tits when she had a boob job, and had a feel, out of curiosity.

smurfy2015 · 23/12/2018 18:01

@Juells yeap, she did put gloves on from the 1st aid kit but she was trying to help but as I was coming around a bit and going out again she also didn't know how badly id whacked my head for sure