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To ask if showing your lady parts is "a thing"

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Polkapjs · 23/12/2018 15:34

A millennial friend has told me about “you know that thing when you show each other your vaginas?” And on seeing my shocked face didn’t say much more other than to explain she’s been showing a colleague at the work’s party and now is embarrassed
Is the comparison even a thing? Is this normal. It was delivered in a way which suggested it was totally normal like comparing hand size...
So tell me - have I been living under a rock? I’d no sooner display my wares than poke needles in my eyes

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KingBobra · 23/12/2018 15:59

"she’s been showing a colleague at the work’s party and now is embarrassed" Is she okay? Was it introduced as "hey this is a thing, all the cool kids do it"? (It isn't, they don't... but sounds like she was hoping you'd confirm it was, and actually she's either been played as the butt of a joke or otherwise taken advantage of...)

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 23/12/2018 16:00

I thought this said showering first. Grin

When I was in uni me and friends invented a drunken game called fanny or fake! Grin On our crappy Motorola phone cameras we took photos or part of our lady bits or innocent other parts and the others had to decide which is which.

LoniceraJaponica · 23/12/2018 16:00

This thread is making me laugh. OP I think your friend is winding you up.

Sizeofalentil · 23/12/2018 16:00

Yes, I have friends who consider this normal.

No, I have not shown mine.

(I'm in early 30s so not a millenial, I don't think?)

AnoukSpirit · 23/12/2018 16:00

What the heck kind of party was this?

TinselAngel · 23/12/2018 16:01

I had to show mine at my interview. Doesn't everyone?

arranbubonicplague · 23/12/2018 16:04

This sounds like it belongs in the same Friends episode as Joey's tailor:

Mominatrix · 23/12/2018 16:04

The only way to show another person one's vagina is by a speculum exam with a spotlight - is this what people are doing? Why? An anatomic tube is an anatomic tube?!?!

diddl · 23/12/2018 16:04

"she’s been showing a colleague at the work’s party "

How did that come about??!!

MrsStrowman · 23/12/2018 16:08

I've probably seen most of my close friends' boobs (sharing rooms on holiday, breast feeding, living together at uni, one flashed Karl Kennedy from neighbours, sunbathing topless, one had a reduction and showed me the results etc) but not vaginas. Definitely not usual. I'm a millennial btw.

arranbubonicplague · 23/12/2018 16:08

"she’s been showing a colleague at the work’s party"

How did that come about??!!

Like the Friends clip above tho' I'm guessing that someone got a mini tape-measure from a Christmas cracker - people started measuring each other's inside leg length and it progressed from there.

Completely implausible unfolding of events.

CaptainCabinets · 23/12/2018 16:09

@Mominatrix well done for coming on to show how clever you are to know the difference between ‘vulva’ and ‘vagina’. Would you like a Biscuit?

SexNotJenga · 23/12/2018 16:10

Oysterbabe Grin

Is your mate normally unusually disinhibited, OP? This really sounds like the sort of thing a certain type of bloke hopes women do.

KnobZombie7 · 23/12/2018 16:11

What?? She was showing her actual vagina? As in sitting there, legs open, go on, look inside, work colleagues? Or did she just pull her pants down?

Pachyderm1 · 23/12/2018 16:12

Your friend is a weirdo. Not sure what it has to do with her being a millennial.

honeylulu · 23/12/2018 16:13

I was once at a works Christmas party (v posh hotel in Holborn) where various colleagues exposed themselves on the dance floor (male and female). We got banned from that venue - there was other types of bad behaviour too.
That was more "flashing " though rather than exchanging close up inspections.

MrsStrowman · 23/12/2018 16:13

@Sizeofalentil of you were born between 1982 and the early 2000s you are a millennial. It surprised me too!

bobstersmum · 23/12/2018 16:14

No its not a thing.

KnobZombie7 · 23/12/2018 16:14

rather than exchanging close up inspections
Yes, this is key. Was it an inspection of sorts or just a flash of the minge?

Villanelley · 23/12/2018 16:15

I shake hands with mine #Talented

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 23/12/2018 16:16

Do people even know what a vagina is?

You can't see them - they're internal.

You can see labia, pudenda, genitals, fannies, twats, foods, fairies, bits or various other terms, but not vaginas.

diddl · 23/12/2018 16:16

"She was showing her actual vagina? As in sitting there, legs open, go on, look inside, "

Yeah, I'm sure that's what happenedHmm

First part of your name's appropriate, isn't it?

blackcat86 · 23/12/2018 16:17

Nope not a thing. I'm a millennial and the only time my vagina has been on public display is when I had a catheter put in before my c section and apparently the entire room had to watch. Not a view I've shared with my friends though

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 23/12/2018 16:17

Thank you diddl = not just me, then!

Ethel36 · 23/12/2018 16:17

Nope..not normal. Never seen my friends vaginas nor have i seen theirs! Don't want to either!