To think she should've cancelled her hair appointment!

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I am absolutely livid and am blaming myself but I was not aware! Please help! I am a mobile hairdresser and regular client who is also distant family, booked to have her hair done today. It was a longer trip as she's moved and I had to take my dd(3) with me.
I got there started the colouring process and she mentions she was off work yesterday with D&V. That she got it off another women who she works with and her kids have been fine but she stopped being sick yesterday afternoon! I'm was actually going to leave but had to finish the service. I kept my gloves on for the whole time didn't drink from any cups and left and was only there an hour or so. I got straight home and dragged me and my little girl in the bath washed our hair and bodies.
I am absolutely livid to think she didn't tell me before hand otherwise I wouldn't have gone ! And to think it's so selfish to put the health of others at risk just to have her hair done! What's wrong with ppl ! 🤬🤬 I should've just left Straight away.
I've read you shouldn't really have contact with anyone within 48 hours after last sick episode! I just don't need this crap over Xmas ! I have a fear of vomiting and I'm livid ! What's the likelihood of me and dd getting it? 😫😫

I was told by a doctor that 24 hours after is fine. 48 hours is just to make absolutely sure the virus has gone.

The 48 rule applies to very young ones who don't wash their hands properly and don't get basic hygiene yet, not grown ups

I work for the NHS and the 48 hr exclusion rule applies to all staff.The point is to make sure the virus has completely gone.

Aside of it being Xmas, it could have happened on a school day and if OP's child gets sick she may not have alternative child care and
may not be able to do her self employed work for 2 days whilst caring for her sick child. Lots of impacts possible, but some people NEED their hair doing.... priorities...

Let's hope OP and child are well for Xmas. Having had 3 relatives with D&V over Xmas at our house it is NOT fun.

48 hours applies to everyone, the NHS website is quite clear about this.

Yanbu, op, these people who go around bllithely spreading their germs around everyone are so stupid and selfish.

As you were wearing gloves and washed afterwards I should think you will both be ok, but I would feel exactly the same about this.

YANBU, can't believe people are saying you are overreacting. She should have let u know then let u decide or wait another 24 hours

Thanks for all replies even the crap ones saying I'm overreacting.I have massive anxiety and people just don't have a clue.
She has Kids and they didn't get it.
And she is a very clean person, I pray we don't.
But if we do I hope it's quick. She will have to find herself another hairdresser now as it's something I will not tolerate. Ever.

Maybe she did want to cancel you ?
You sound very anxious OP

I have massive anxiety and people just don’t have a clue

You can’t blame people without anxiety issues for not understanding how you feel! You have no idea who may or may not have anxiety on an Internet forum full of strangers. YOU asked the question and people are giving you their opinions.

What's washing your hair going to do?
It seems every second poster on mumsnet is suffering from severe anxiety these days. I'd say a hands on job like hairdressing probably isn't for you tbh.

Thanks for all replies even the crap ones saying I'm overreacting

Why post in AIBU? Next time post in IDNBU

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Yanbu. How very selfish of her. I would be pissed off too.

Lol. I hate stomach bugs but to be honest, with kids you have no chance of avoiding them.

We kindly took one to the maternity unit recently. The bug triggered my daughters waters to break. We were isolated, and barrier nursed but by the time we left 5 days later it was sweeping the ward.

You are not overreacting OP! That's so pissy of her- especially so close to Christmas and you had your child there :( hoping you don't get sick! Unfortunately we probably encounter lots of contagious people every day- scares my ocd to pieces😣😫

I'd lose her as a client straight away OP.

And I hate to say but her kids are probably incubating it which means you were probably at greater risk of catching it.

What a selfish thing to do. There is a very good reason for the 48 hour rule. It would actually work if idiots weren't so self absorbed.

I bet your saying this now though but said fuck all to her?

@Dotty1970 a lot of people don't like face to face confrontation.. it's not unusual! Though I would have text afterwards saying that she should have made clear she was ill really recently.

It would have been thoughtful of her to let you know, but you are massively over reacting.
Everywhere you go you will come into contact with people with all sorts of bugs - in shops, on the bus, anywhere you are in contact with lots of people.
People holding a different opinion from yourself aren't being 'crappy', they are answering the question you asked - AIBU. Some people think you are, some think you aren't. Presumably you wouldn't have asked in AIBU?, if you didn't want to here whether you are or not ? [confused

I don't think you're overreacting but I have the same phobia and would be seriously anxious. You'd think people would have common sense, I know I would.

I know how you feel OP, we had an awful year a few years back with stomach bugs/food poisoning and my mental health was also taking a nose dive at the same time, a few months after the latest bug and me trying very hard not to get phobic about bugs my SIL brought her son to our house and only after being here a while and our son sharing a glass of water with hers did she let slip he had been vomiting the night before, I was really angry and upset but she couldn't give a toss, very selfish. It's one thing to be exposed to bugs in everyday life it's another for someone to willingly expose you to them unnecessarily. My son didn't catch the bug even after sharing water (so being exposed doesn't mean you'll catch it) but she did call us the next day to ask us to collect her son from nursery because she was vomiting, we said no

Activated charcoal, 100% grape fruit juice and apple cider vinegar are fantastic for preventing/lessening symptoms of stomach bugs, Google them and have them in, just knowing you have a 'strategy' helps the anxiety associated with the bugs I find.

I think it’s selfish to expose other people to your sickness without giving them the option of postponing. I hate getting sick and I try to avoid making other people sick too.

I read that you can only catch the bug if your in the same room when someone vomits from.the spray. You'll only come down with a sick bug if you've ingested it. Either by being in a room when someone's just vommed or have picked up the virus on your hands and ingested it.

From what you've said I think you'll be fine. O understand your frustration though. I don't do well being sick.

I don't think you're over reacting at all, I'm sure some of the critical posters here would have thought differently if they came down with a vomiting big during Xmas!

The bug is hugely contagious so if you have been infected it's likely to manifest within 24 hours. Obviously hope you haven't caught it and have a great Xmas!

YABU to take your daughter with you. The client is paying for your time and service.

I would be pissed off with her. You could be ill over Christmas, lose money from not being able to work and you've got a fear of being sick. You are meant to isolate yourself until 48 hours after your last episode no exceptions.

I'm sure this happens all the time, but most people just don't mention that they've been throwing up.
There are so many horrible bugs going around at the moment.
We've all had it this last week and no idea where we caught it. Could have been anywhere.