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Morning sickness husband in bed

59 replies

GoatFinger · 23/12/2018 08:41

It's like even with an ailment only women can get he still manages to need to have a half day nap!
I'm sick as a dog with 'morning' sickness and for some obscure reason my DH has decided that yesterday and today he needed a sleep for numerous hours. We already have a school age child so I can't lie down myself and try not to vomit as someone has to look after them.

I was told last week I had a face like a slapped arse because I didn't want to go to a fucking bbq while feeling sick.

Aibu to think ffs can I not just be the most unwell for once.

Any advice on whether I should feel like I have stomach flu at 7weeks. So irritated.

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Babymamamama · 23/12/2018 08:43

I think your nausea is probably very normal at this stage of pregnancy. Your lazy partner though.... That is another thing.

Readytogogogo · 23/12/2018 08:54

YANBU. Morning sickness is utterly miserable and he should be doing much more to help.

Verbena87 · 23/12/2018 08:56

Go and puke on his sleeping face. Bonus points if it gets in his nostrils, mouth and ear-holes.

Morning sickness is the pits, and he should be pulling his weight.

poppoppop100 · 23/12/2018 08:59

Men sonetimes do get morning sickness including vomiting

ThanosSavedMe · 23/12/2018 09:00

Kick him out of bed now and tell him to grow the fuck up

Weenurse · 23/12/2018 09:00

Go to bed and tell him it is his turn

DonnaDarko · 23/12/2018 09:00

I second what Verbena said

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GoatFinger · 23/12/2018 09:01

I'm already now concerned about the level of care he will give further on if he resents my feeling sick already.

I'm so fed up.

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Shahlalala · 23/12/2018 09:04

Men get morning sickness pop? Hmm

Same boat sickness wise, though DH is actually being quite helpful. I would be livid if he was behaving like that.
He has gone for an extra hour or two now I’m less sick and awake for DD. Sleep tag team this weekend.

Shahlalala · 23/12/2018 09:05

Just go and tell him you need to rest, for the baby. You are growing a person.

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GoatFinger · 23/12/2018 09:09

I think people don't believe you can feel terrible without actually vomiting. Like you just feel a bit sickly but you just get used to it.
It's absolutely terrible feeling on the verge of sickness. Im barely eating.
Im sleeping to avoid the nausea.

Anything working for your sickness Sha?

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Pandamodium · 23/12/2018 09:12

How the shite do men get morning sickness?

Dimsumlosesum · 23/12/2018 09:13

If this is how he is now, it usually doesn't magically improve when the baby comes along.

Pandamodium · 23/12/2018 09:16

@GoatFinger I tried these ginger sweets from my chemist (it's old fashioned ones that seem to stock them) they worked somewhat but I ended up needing medication as mine got worse and progressed to actual vomiting (which wasn't as bad feeling wise just weight wise)

Hopefully it goes before 13 weeks for you the statistics are good.

ClarabellaCTL · 23/12/2018 09:16

I'm concerned about the fact he told you you 'had a face like a slapped arse'. What an utter nob. I never had MS with either of mine, I know I'm very lucky. My DH was still great at looking after me though, when I was so tired in those early weeks he did everything he could to let me rest.

XmasHolly · 23/12/2018 09:16

I found that the nausea was worse if I felt hungry so I constantly nibbled dry biscuits and sipped water all day. It's a horrible feeling, really feel for you. Hope you feel more human soon and that your DH cuts you a lot of slack!!

ChickenDinnerChecky · 23/12/2018 09:19

The only thing that worked for me was crushing ice with a rolling pin and then eating it with a spoon. And the travel sickness bands you can get from Boots maybe helped but I never took them off in case it was worse without them!

Husband is a dick.

flumpybear · 23/12/2018 09:23

I second the fact your husband is a dick, a selfish, self serving twat badger ! As for the bbq - get him to go with your child and you stay home next time!

ClinkyMonkey · 23/12/2018 09:28

I think you hit the nail on the head, OP, when you said about people not believing how bad you feel when you're not being physically sick. I had nausea throughout both my pregnancies (not just for the first trimester) and it was horrendous. I remember having a cough which was so severe that I threw up - and it was such a relief for the nausea to have a release just once. Not that throwing up is particularly pleasant of course.

I hope you're feeling better soon. It sounds as though you have a selfish DH who lacks empathy and unfortunately that may never improve.

StoppinBy · 23/12/2018 09:28

I had terrible morning sickness and other shitty things the whole way through pregnancy starting right at 5 weeks, my hubby had to pick up so much slack (and did).

In the extremely unlikely event that I did look like a slapped arse it would not have even crossed his mind to say something like that.

I would definitely be going in there and laying down on the bed and requesting rather forcefully that he get his arse out of bed and leave you to it for at least a few hours.

I hope it passes for you soon!

DishingOutDone · 23/12/2018 09:29

The only arse here is your DH Angry - I was going to say was he like it first pregnancy but mine was fine first time then behaved like an arse all through second. However, he then continued to behave like an arse - just a bigger arse. Does your DH have arse form OP?

OhLemons · 23/12/2018 09:29

I wasn't sick once but the nausea (and I had a metallic taste as well) was just awful. I looked grey for the first 14 weeks of my pregnancy. Sucking mints and ice lollies (so many ice lollies) were the only things that helped. Hope you find something that works for you.

Can't help with your DH I'm afraid, but hope you manage to get him sorted as well!

LittleBot178 · 23/12/2018 09:30

He sounds like a prick. I’d be hopping into bed next to him, retching loudly until he wakes up, then inform him he’s on duty for the rest of the day.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 23/12/2018 09:32

What a fucking arsehole. The default setting for any decent partner is for them to offer help. Face like a smacked arse, forsooth. I'd vomit into his shoes for that.

Nanny0gg · 23/12/2018 09:36

I hope you're not looking after him in any way?