to not want to take ds to be weighed?

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Sorry, this is more of a rant really...

For the first few weeks I used to take ds weekly to be weighed, but I haven't taken him for about 6 weeks now. He is 5 months.

I am having trouble getting on with the health visitors. Last time I saw one (at an antenatal group) she said that ds waking for a feed at night when he had been only going through for a week was "like taking a step backwards".

When quizzed about my feeding schedule, I told them I feed him at 11pm whether he wakes or not - the dreamfeed so many people and books recommend - and she said "why would you do that?" like I was the most ignorant person on earth. I was too stunned to explain myself fully, and just ended up muttering about him waking earlier if we don't do it.

And the time before, when discussing sleep (he has had trouble since birth, with colic, reflux and now eczema) I was told (in a most disapproving way)to stop swaddling and using a dummy or he would never sleep. Funnily enough, he does sleep pretty well now, with a swaddle to stop him scratching, AND a dummy.

So, I don't want to get him weighed again as I know the HVs will wind me up. Or should I just grin and bear it? Or is there anywhere else I can get him weighed?

Ha Custardo - well put - couldn't agree more, complete waste of time and I never bother

Oh god, don't bother, why should you?

I used to take ds constantly, for something to do

I wouldn't bother if I wasn't bored witless

only read the OP but at our clinic they weigh them and then ask if you want to see the HV or not.
They also have a recommended amount of times you are supposed to go. Something like every 2 weeks for newborn to weaning, once a moth from 4-9 months etc (I can;t remember the actual weeks as mine are older and it was only started recently)

Don't bother - it's only a prompter for paranoia.

You will be able to judge if all is OK. No amount of finger wagging from a HV is going to make LOs eat more - only you can do that.

I also did it partly as an excuse to get out of teh house. Then I discovered taht Starbucks is a mecca for new mums and teh rest is history

Trust your own feelings. Unless you think there is a problem, save your time and energy.

my 1yo dd was due boosters on her b'day i phoned dr's and told receptionist that i wasnt bringing her that week for her jabs as it was her b'day please pass the message, anyway the next week i was called to be asked why i hadnt turned up to clinic! couldnt believe it that i was being chased by the hv.
You dont need to continuously weigh your dc unless your concerned as no one knows your baby like you i used to go evey 8weeks ish.
I think as long as your happy with your baby's growthetc then its fine to leave going to see hv apart from checks and boosters

you really don't have to take them if you don't want to, it's not a rule, esp if they are making you feel bad
my baby hasn't been since she was 5 weeks old - she's not 9 months!

now 9 months of course

Pay no attention to your HV and stop seeing her. There is nothing wrong with your approach and its up to you how you bring up your child!

Why are you even considering taking your baby to be weighed...this never even crossed my mind, it is totally optional and a waste of valuable time imo unless you feel concerned about your baby being too heavy or too light.

My mum used to take ds to be weighed every couple of months, but we don't bother anymore as he hated it and usually peed all over the scales in protest. I agree tho, don't take him if you don't want to. If he's fine, then it's not worth the stress

YANBU don't get mine weighed voluntarily, can't really be doing with the whole thing. Only intend to go to see mine before first birthday to point out that I havn't had the Guthrie results and check they have, oh and for the free books!Probably totally unwelcome comment but have you thought about baby sleeping bags/grobags for the eczema when you are fed up of swaddling? (we did find ours slept better in WInter on one toobut we had cold damp place then)

YANBU

chopster was going to post the same thing .
Was mightily pissed off when I caught my FIL weighing my children, they (MIL especially) insist on comparing their grandchildren in a blinkered biased unhelpful way!

dipldocus..lol at crap own bodyweight...same with my lo!