To think I've made a total fool of myself?

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I feel like a massive twat.
I'm 35 and beginning of the year I left my horrible husband.
I left a shell of myself.
I started seeing a woman (we will call her Kelly) and she's brought me back to life and basically showed me how to be in a normal relationship(cheesy I know)
Last night we went out for food and ended up in a 80s club..we both got drunk and I don't know why but it was around 3am and I wrote a post on Facebook saying
"After a shitty year I have a girlfriend and I've never been happier"
Why the hell I wrote that il never know
I deleted it this morning
Will people be thinking I'm mental?
I never bloody use my Facebook,I never update status or anything just go on really to be nosey.
Have I made a fool of myself?

Stay calm. Unlikely many people if anyone at all will have seen it. Don't refer to it yourself, and ifanyone else does, just laugh and say 'oh dear, I was quite the worse for wear and posted some pretty random stuff that night!'

Nope! Lol. That's a life affirming lovely status. If I saw that from a friend I'd think good for you.

Is she your girlfriend? If she is why would people think you are mental? Why have you made a fool of yourself?
You are in a happier place, anyone who cares about you would have smiled at that.
All the best OP

Why did you delete it?

You have nothing to feel stupid about! You are definitely over thinking this.

So who are you worried about seeing it?
You haven't done anything wrong , try to forget about it, laugh it off if anyone asks

Not made a fool of yourself at all.

Glad you’re happy!

You came out while drunk. You feel bad because you're hungover, not because you came out. Don't worry; be happy!

Yeah she is my girlfriend.
Nobody knows about her except one close friend.
I deleted it because I thought people would think I was having some mid life crisis or something and I always hate when people broadcast everything on social media etc

I'd question why you deleted it. If I was Kelly I'd question whether you were ashamed of me.

Why would anyone think you're mental? You're allowed to have a relationship with whoever you want, and you're allowed to be happy...and even be a bit gushy about it when the moment takes you.

You haven't made yourself a fool, but if you're keeping your relationship secret you might have just made Kelly feel like one.

Relax. You were feeling The Fear. I think it’s a lovely post, and those that care about you will be happy that you’re happy.

She isn't on my Facebook,she doesn't use it or I think she would probably laugh at me for being a massive gob$$> Ha ha

No! Whats wrong with what you wrote?!

Its true. Youve had a shit year and now youre happy.

I assume most people would be happy youre happy!

Not in the least. Is rather heart warming

There's nothing wrong with what you wrote at all :) Have a happy Christmas with Kelly and stop worrying!

I’d think ‘Good for her’!

The "cheesy I know" comment in the middle and all the backpedaling etc. makes me think you're not fully comfortable with being gay/bisexual. The secrecy is worrying and since when does finding somebody to love count as a "mid-life crisis". If you changed your name to Rainbow, sold your possessions to live in a commune or maybe changed careers to become a rally driver, that might be seen as a mid-life crisis. I really hope you can make yourself feel comfortable with this all, for both of your sakes.

I'm not flaming you on this, but you owe it to yourself to be at peace with it.

I have been a little embarrassed worrying what people might think but now I honestly don't care.
I think I'm worried incase people think it's just a phase or something.

Are you prone to having phases? I know when I was young I did, but by 35 I was reasonably ok with my choices... not all work out, but that's sometimes for other reasons. I'd hope your friends and family respect you enough now you're a mature person to not disrespect you in such a way. Maybe they'll surprise you and be delighted at your happiness. I know that's what I'd want for my friends and family.

Stop worrying.
You told the truth on Facebook, that is fine, telling lies is not fine.
My wife has been unwell for the past six years and I've shared my fears of cancer, my thoughts about three lots of surgery, my fear of her heart failure and all that I have had back from friends on Facebook is support and it has helped me survive.
Be honest, be happy, let the world know how you feel

If I read that I'd think "good for you". Don't worry about it. If anyone judges you, they're probably not worth knowing.

Anyone who is worth worrying about will be delighted that you are happy.

A friend of mine shared similar information (not on Facebook but DM to me). I was nothing but happy for her.

If you were my friend and I saw that post it would make me smile, if I knew you weren’t someone who usually post then I might assume you’d had a few drinks, but would still think it was lovely!

is this because people don't know you are bi? That being with a woman is a phase? That the ending of the marriage caused you to hate all men?
I'd think nothing of it really, it's not a big deal to me or people in my circle. i think the alcohol is making you paranoid and anxious?

I think people would have been happy for you. It’s happy news. But if you’re not ready to come out, that’s okay too. 🌈