To think I've made a total fool of myself?

[Steptacular]

I feel like a massive twat.
I'm 35 and beginning of the year I left my horrible husband.
I left a shell of myself.
I started seeing a woman (we will call her Kelly) and she's brought me back to life and basically showed me how to be in a normal relationship(cheesy I know)
Last night we went out for food and ended up in a 80s club..we both got drunk and I don't know why but it was around 3am and I wrote a post on Facebook saying
"After a shitty year I have a girlfriend and I've never been happier"
Why the hell I wrote that il never know
I deleted it this morning
Will people be thinking I'm mental?
I never bloody use my Facebook,I never update status or anything just go on really to be nosey.
Have I made a fool of myself?

Well I do have anxiety anyway so I guess that's not helping.
Ah I'm pleased you don't think I made a fool of myself.
I've been stressing all day ha ha

I don’t know you obviously, but I’m really happy for you. It sounds like you deserve something good in your life right out. I’m sure your friends and family will also be glad you’re happy, or at least the ones who matter.

If I saw that post, I'd be pleased for you, 'like' the status, and scroll on.

I certainly wouldn't think you were being foolish/silly/having a mid-life crisis etc.

As long as your names not Sally I wouldn't worry too much.

It's not Sally ha ha
Can I ask why?
My brains not working properly ha ha

Can understand that's probably not the way you'd choose to come out.

If I were you, I'd say nothing to anyone, assume that nobody saw it, and then prepare what I'm going to say when someone mentions it.

And maybe think about who I wanted to tell about my amazing new girlfriend, because clearly a part of me wants to tell everyone.

Some people will think it's a phase but some people are narrow-minded and unimaginative. It's not at all surprising that, if you're attracted to both men and women, you might have spent most of your life so far with men, because that side of things has been encouraged.

Your name's not Sally anyway, it's Yorkie right?

Anyone who thinks you are "doing it for attention" is a person who already didn't like you. And now you've usefully found out that this person is not a friend. So you can ditch them.

If I had seen that I would just be happy for you and think it was lovely.

Maybe it’s your subconscious letting you know it’s ready for you to start telling people about your relationship!

I would be really pleased for you if you were one of my friends. The worst reaction you're likely to encounter is envy of being in a happy relationship from those who are in bad ones or single and seeking.

If I saw that post from a friend I'd be thrilled for them. I say rewrite the post and enjoy your happiness!

I had a friend who did the exact same thing. Left an unhappy marriage and suddenly posted a drunk photo of her with another woman saying about how glad they are that they found each other and how much they love each other. Nobody laughed. Everyone was very very happy for her.

@Steptacular Sally is a reference to a Sky Atlantic show called Sally4Ever by the brilliant Julia Davis about a woman who leaves her fiancé for a woman, but the woman in question turns out to be quite nuts.

If I saw that I would be thrilled for you. You deserve to be happy after a crap relationship...who cares what form that happiness comes in! Good for you I say! (You were probably jacked after dancing to all that Duran Duran and Stock, Aitken and Waterman I bet! )

People who might have seen it, happy news for them right? Good for you and no it's not foolish.. as far as I or the most pp gather it's the truth!. Happy for you!

I'm jealous. Would love to leave my DH for a woman I am besotted with

I’d be happy for you. I think you’ve got post alcohol anxiety, which is horrible. Be kind to yourself and worry about it tomorrow.

Good for you. Had a friend do similar this year. I'm thrilled for her.

Afaik she doesn't use Fb so assuming you're not her 😂😂

Life's too short to stay unhappy. Be with whoever makes you feel good about yourself. Be surrounded by people who make you happy. See where this goes. If it ends and the next person who makes you feel this way is Male it doesn't make it a phase. It makes you human with feelings. Ones you deserve to have and celebrate

And maybe think about who I wanted to tell about my amazing new girlfriend, because clearly a part of me wants to tell everyone.

Yep.

If someone I knew had posted that I would have been happy for them.

It's sweet - It's adorable - you were drunk and full of love. Don't let your hangover drown that out.

I’m sure all the people who care for you will be glad that you’ve found happiness.

Perhaps the answer to why you deleted it is that you didn’t feel you could make public announcements including your partner without discussing with her first? That consideration for her feelings may be at the root of your unease.

I'd be the same. I would feel I'd overshared massively and to everybody on facebook, so in your shoes I'd be suffering from a similar vulnerability hangover.

But it's done now. Breath in and breath out. The anxiety comes from imagining what others must be thinking so put yourself in their shoes and try to think of a time that somebody you liked made ONE slightly ill-judged comment that caused you to instantly think less of them and not forget their comment. Can you think of one person who has done this? One person who has lost your good opinion or affection with one piece of oversharing???

Literally nothing embarrassing about that.

Is it the publically coming out? Or the oversharing fear of lovey dovey relationship? Or making it sound like youve found someone to make you happy, rather than found happiness in yourself?

With the people i know who have entered their first same-sex relationship later in life, theyve just started mentioning their partner, then photos of them together. And people have just not questioned it (not pubocally anyway). Probably through fear of being the only one who didnt know lol. People like to be the first thing. Admitting they didnt know you were gay publically would be simply social media awful!

I think that was a sweet way to come out! Embrace life if you're happy, and fuck anyone who could possibly see anything wrong with you dating a woman in this day and age!

I think it's a bit of both really.
Also on my Facebook I have a few gay women and I'm worried they might think I'm just messing this woman around.
I worry people might think of me differently knowing that I'm seeing this woman.

I guess people won't actually give two hoots ..nobody is even invested in it bar me and my overthinking brain