I work part time, have 2 DC and my partner works away one month at a time.
My partner has relatives who stay 3-4 hours away and maybe 4-5 times a year they will come and stay. They always leave an absolute mess when they come, expect to have their favourite food in the fridge waiting for them and just cause chaos pretty much.
Last night I got a message telling me they were going to come up tonight and stay for 1 night. They weren’t asking me to stay at my house, they were telling me. I have flat out refused as my partner is away, I’ve been working this week, it’s 3 days till Christmas, I have 2 DC (1 x still not walking and a massive handful) and I have guests round for Christmas Day. I also told them that the spare room isn’t ready as I have Christmas presents everywhere and I am currently trying to build one of my DC main present. She replied “we only need a bed”.
I just know that I will be getting slagged off left, right and centre and the rest of the family will know by now. WIBU to say no?
P.s - they already came up a few weeks ago (stayed at my house then) to deliver Christmas presents so it’s not to take up any presents, they never even said why they were coming up.