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to be pissed off about this unwanted microwave?

112 replies

Mallorie · 21/12/2018 19:02

We have a 20+ year old microwave - it works fine and I keep it clean but the plastic is a little yellowed and most of the markings around the dial have worn off. It doesn't bother me at all, one because I barely use it, and two, because I think it's idiotic and wasteful to replace a perfectly useful appliance for no other reason than appearance (you should see my beloved 25 year old Mercedes but that's another story).

I have a good friend who comments about the microwave every time she's over, saying 'I know you can afford a new one' (true) and 'That thing can't actually work' (not true). I think it's a boring conversation so I just sort of say mm-hmm and move on to something else.

She's only gone and bought me a brand new spaceship of a micro for xmas, which judging by the photos on the box is basically made of chrome and flashing lights and I am just getting angrier at it by the minute. It's still sitting in the nest of paper where I unwrapped it- she was so excited about it and I made the right noises when I opened it but now I just want it out of the house.

I am thinking about giving it away on freecycle or similar to someone who needs a micro, but what will I say next time she's over? I'm thinking of saying that it blew up and blew a fuse the first time I used it and that our old wiring isn't up to this massive futuristic cooking machine, which is plausible, but who knows what else of mine she'll try to replace next.

OP posts:
ZenNudist · 21/12/2018 20:43

Keep it, its going to do a better job than your old one.

Honeyroar · 21/12/2018 20:45

Uhyeah.. don't you have what you want/like in your own kitchen? Or do your friends dictate what you have? That's the point. I guess the OP is angry because she feels she either uses the new microwave that she doesn't like or she upsets her friend - there's no win..

Zwischenwasser · 21/12/2018 20:45

Another one worried about the safety of such an old microwave

WinterfellWench · 21/12/2018 20:46

@upsy1981

I would keep the new microwave boxed up in storage until your old one breaks. You know in typical fashion, your old one will break next week if you give her shiny one away and she will be smugity smug pants! Keep it stored and tell her you are grateful for her gift and you have it stored ready for when its needed.

Good idea. Maybe do this rather than tell her to shove it. Very annoying though.

@ohyeahisurehopeitdoes

Your friend went out of her way to buy you a shiny new microwave which has clear glass, numbers on the buttons and won't blow up, and you're angry at her because you want to keep your 20 yo yellowing, faded, manky microwave?

She should have got you coal. You're so ungrateful. I can't believe you want to give away a perfect microwave just because you hate the fact that it actually looks nice. What a lovely person you are. Hmm

OMG you sound so ANGRY.

Are you the friend by any chance?! 😂

This friend is a rude, obnoxious, bossy, passive-aggressive twunt. She is not being 'generous' at all.

@Shecamefromgreeceshehadathirst

Or better still, kill the evil bitch, chop her into pieces, cook her in the fucking thing, then feed her to the rats.

Fucking hell calm down!

Reflexella · 21/12/2018 20:50

No I get this, it’s an imposed item that would irk me too.

There are some things you just don’t buy people - art and household appliances definitely count.

It seems to be given after many instances of ‘mind your own business’ subject changes.

I’d want to choose my own microwave whether that be the old one or a new one.

AmIIntrouble · 21/12/2018 20:50

I would put it away in the loft and tell her the existing one will be replaced if it has stopped working. Whatever you want to do with it afterward is up to you...

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 21/12/2018 20:51

Fucking hell calm down!

I won't. I'm 100%, deadly serious. I think that was really really obvious from my post. I definitely wasn't taking the piss.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 21/12/2018 20:51

If, hypothetically your microwave were to break tomorrow, is this one a size and style that you would replace it with? If so smile and say you will store it for later. If not then I think you need to say something. I don't want a large all singing all dancing microwave as all it does is heat milk and porridge. A small, compact microwave suits me just fine.

BlessedMango · 21/12/2018 20:51

YANBU. Your friend knows that you are happy with the old one, but she seems to have decided you shouldn’t be. She doesn’t, even with generosity, get to decide when and how you will replace things. That’s your decision.

WinterfellWench · 21/12/2018 20:53

@shecamefromgreeceshehadathirst

I won't. I'm 100%, deadly serious. I think that was really really obvious from my post. I definitely wasn't taking the piss.

😂😂😂

7salmonswimming · 21/12/2018 20:56

I agree about not chucking things out just because they’re old.

But there is definitely a safety aspect with microwaves.

Also, the new one might also have an oven function, which would be great for baking/reheating/roasting small things.

We’re it not for the safety aspect I’d suggest donating the old one to a local car repair shop/ garage/ taxi hut/ whatever so it’s not wasted. But in this case I’d actually dispose of it.

CoughLaughFart · 21/12/2018 20:57

I have some idea of where you’re coming from. A friend of mine used to go on and on at me about the fact that I still had a CRT television (‘That thing should be in a museum’, ‘Have you still not replaced it?’ etc.). My feeling was that, while it still worked, buying a flatscreen just for appearances would be a waste of money. That said, if he’d wanted to shell out to buy me a new one I wouldn’t have turned it down Grin

AlpacaLypse · 21/12/2018 21:09

My microwave is about 20 years old now, and most of the numbers have worn off. However it does still work efficiently - when we do a supermarket ready meal in it, the food comes out properly and evenly cooked according to the pack timings and instructions and doesn't need any extra nuking. When it does finally die, I will choose a replacement for it MYSELF. That suits me in size, function and appearance. yanbu OP.

Imknackeredzzz · 21/12/2018 21:09

For gods sake get over yourself! The 20 year old microwave not only looks disgusting it’s probably ridiculously unsafe!! Get a grip and chuck it out!!

Graphista · 21/12/2018 21:10

She's overstepped by buying a replacement BUT chances are it's no longer safe to use. I think it likely she's genuinely worried for your safety using it!

Old seals, cracks you haven't noticed, gradual loss of efficacy meaning it's not heating the food as well, the electrical/fire safety of something that old are all risks I wouldn't want to take.

Are there children or vulnerable adults in your household? Are you in a joined property? Flat, semi or terraced?

Why are you so against replacing it? That's weird!

"I very much doubt it's uglier than your yellowing, faded, 20 year old microwave. You're being weird about this. It's such an odd thing to be angry about" totally agreed

By all means choose a new one you like the look and spec of but I think YABU to keep the old one.

"This sounds like something my MIL would do. She has a bee in her bonnet about the age of my car and the fact I haven't replaced it but I feel the same as you. It will die at some point but, while its still going, I'm going to keep on using it." Cars are checked annually for safety issues and the checklist is constantly evolving.

"I am with you with keeping things until they break (I have been using my oven for 2 years with a broken door, I lean something against it whilst I’m cooking" wow! I wouldn't eat anything out of that oven!

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 21/12/2018 21:11

Give it to me! Grin Iv been wanting a new microwave for over a year but I can't justify replacing the old one as it still works

notangelinajolie · 21/12/2018 21:12

Good Friend … where is your new spaceship microwave?

Mallorie … erm yes thank you for your wonderful gift - I have put it away safely until my beloved microwave dies.

I'm with you OP - no point in replacing old one until it is broken. In fact I think it is quite rude and patronising of her to buy you a new one. At the end of the day it sits in your house, in your kitchen and it's not really any of her concern which appliances you choose to have in it.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 21/12/2018 21:15

Actually thinking about it mine must be at least 16 years old.

So yes really give it to me Grin

notangelinajolie · 21/12/2018 21:16

Also adding that my washing machine is of a similar colour/vintage. Friends and family have seen washing machines come and go and mine is still going strong. Why one earth would I want to replace it for one that most probably won't last more that a couple of years?

MrsLandingham · 21/12/2018 21:17

My microwave is from 1993, making it older than the DC by some margin. It has a grill / bake / dual cook function, though I use it mainly for warming plates, taking the chill off red wine, and making cocoa. I'm curious to know how long it will carry on for, and it certainly never crossed my mind that it is unsafe.

Upsy1981 · 21/12/2018 21:18

I know cars are checked regularly but my MIL isn't bothered about the safety aspect, just the number on the plate. OPs friend hasn't said she is concerned about the safety of the microwave. If she has I might be able to understand it. She too is just concerned appearances.

CottonSock · 21/12/2018 21:19

I bet the new one would use less power and be quicker. I think you sound a bit ungrateful (even spiteful)

45redballoons · 21/12/2018 21:21

I understand your irritation. There’s nothing wrong with your microwave. You don’t like waste but now you have this new microwave you have decide what to do with. Your friend knows you thought yours was fine so she has done this because she is suggesting there is something wrong with something in your house.

Now if you keep it until yours goes you have to find space which you may not have. It’s not that you’re emotionally attached it’s just now your friend has given you a problem for you to deal with.

Ruddle91 · 21/12/2018 21:22

I wish somebody would buy me a new one 🙈.

Mum2jenny · 21/12/2018 21:23

I'd be very upset. If I'd wanted a new microwave, I'd have wanted to choose it