To not go to the ballet with dd

[MozzchopsThirty]

I've booked us tickets for ballet tonight, I've never seen a ballet.
I've got loads to do, been in work all day, came home to find my house stinks of curry, her and her boyfriend have left all the cartons, plates etc all over worktops, they've bought yet another takeaway despite pleading poverty
She hasn't answered her phone all day
I get home they're in bed
It's like a bloody student house

I lost my shit big time
And now she says she won't go

Quite frankly although I've paid £50 I could quite happily climb into bed and sleep until the morning

AIBU to do that?

I walked in the kitchen and she said 'I hope you're going to apologise for the way you spoke to me'

She's just ripping the piss. Good for you for making her leave. Go to Berlin with a friend or alone. It's a lovely relaxed, friendly place and loads of people eat/sit in bars etc on their own; you won't be an oddity at all.

Go alone so you don’t have to sit here and look at her miserable face.

Your daughter is taking the piss big time.

I moved back with my mum when I was 23 to save for a house. I earned 21k a year and paid my mum £300 a month rent. I went food shopping, cooked tea at least twice a week and did my fair share of the household jobs. My then boyfriend now DH stayed on weekends when he was back from work and again contributed financially and fairly to the house. We were adults and grateful that my mum offered us to come back but still knew we had bills to pay and could get off Scott free. We respected her. Your daughter is not respecting you at all.

In fairness to my wonderful mum she had put the ‘rent’ we paid into a pot (took off the bit extra it cost to have us there) and gave it us back at the end of the year as a bonus for things to buy for the house (which we were hugely grateful for) but I didn’t know that at the time and still treated it like I was paying a bill like a normal adult.

Sit her down and give her some serious choices to make

Couldn’t get off Scott free that should say