Do I stay or do I go?

[MessyMummy15]

Been invited out this evening to a friends house a five min walk away for pre Christmas drinks.
Thing is... I haven't been out this year at all!! Not once. I have two kids under 4 and inevitably the 4/5 times I have been invited out without DH and kids one of them gets ill or I get ill etc so I don't go. I was soo looking forward to this for weeks and today... my almost two year old has a cold. 😫😫
AIBU to just go anyway. I've been feeling fed up all day feeling guilty if I go but a bit sorry for myself as a SAHM because I have the kids 24/7. I know they will be fine with DH but he's done 10 days in a row 12 hour shifts and I'd literally walk out as he walks in leaving him with a slightly ill baby and hyper 4 year old.

So do I go just to probably feel guilty and leave early or just stay and home and accept that's mum life.

Go! You’re only 5 mins away, DH can ring if there’s a problem

Ask your DH what he thinks?

Definitely go. Your DH needs to to do his fair share. And you need to let him. Go. Enjoy.

DH very much encouraging me to go but it's just the guilt... thinking about it since my second son was born 21 months ago. I've only been out without my kids once.
I think I've forgotten how to be a person who's not a mum. 😏

Which is why you should go!

You must go, please! Your husband will be fine in charge of the children. Enjoy yourself, you're only young once.

Go. It’s just a cold and I’m sure your DH can manage. It will make you a better parent to get some adult company.

It's a cold for crying out loud! Go, your looking for excuses, get yourself ready and just go!

If you go will there be trouble?

And if you stay will it be double?

/gets coat

you NEED to go!
your Dh and the kids will be fine

If you don't go this evening when are you going to go out. No one is making g you geek guilty but you. GO. GO.GO. Have fun, have a laugh wbst the worst that can happen? If you don't like it you can go home.

@easyandy101 😂

But in all seriousness, getting out is the hardest bit OP but you must go. You can do easily lose all sense of self as a mum and the longer you leave it, the harder it gets. Go and have a lovely time. Your DH will be fine and it's only 5 minutes away.

It's only a cold, your DH is quite capable of handling it and if he isn't, he bloody well should be.

The guilt thing is going to be with you for the rest of your life, it goes with the job, so you need to start managing it otherwise you are never going to have a life outside motherhood.

Go and have fun, DP can manage

Go!

Go!

I actually don't even understand why a cold is a reason not to go?!

I know they will be fine with DH but he's done 10 days in a row 12 hour shifts

followed by

DH very much encouraging me to go

But yet someone still can't resist.....

Your DH needs to to do his fair share.

It’s important to keep friendships alive and well op, thing is one day your babies will be grown and you don’t want to be wondering where your friends are

It’s a cold. If you use that as an excuse you will next go out when they are 18. Go!!!!!!

Suppress the mum guilt and go!

Go and have fun!

Go and enjoy yourself!!

It's only a cold.

I agree you should go OP, but it's still amazing to see people on here suggesting that DH isn't doing his fair share when he's literally done ten 12 hour shifts...