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Renewing wedding vows

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lyinginthesundrinkingbubbles · 21/12/2018 14:40

Whenever I hear this I think (silently to myself I might add):

"Someone has strayed and they've needed to recommit and forgive"

I just don't really understand it otherwise. Admittedly I know at least two couples who have done this for reasons of infidelity.
Anyone else think this as I know I'm being really mean and there must be some genuinely lovely reasons why some couples choose to renew vows.

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MsVestibule · 21/12/2018 23:02

If it was at a milestone wedding anniversary, I wouldn't think 'affair' but if it was just random, I possibly would.

It's our 10th wedding anniversary next year and whilst I can see why people might have a party, I think I would feel a bit weird renewing our vows - AFAIC, the original ones still stand as much now as when we said them, so unless they were significantly different (ergo not wedding vows) I just wouldn't see the point.

Livingoncake · 22/12/2018 01:00

Well, all I know is that every couple I know of who has done a vow renewal has later divorced, but of course that’s just my experience. I’m sure people do it for a variety of reasons.

I would never do it again because, as lovely as our wedding was, I was constantly stressed out in the lead-up from trying to create a perfect day. I wonder now who I was actually doing it for.

The only way I would consider doing it again would be if we happened to have a holiday in Vegas. Then I’d happily remarry him in the tackiest chapel we could find.

RoobyRoobyRooby · 22/12/2018 03:11

We renewed ours because I always wanted a silly, tacky Elvis wedding in Las Vegas. We were originally eloping for our actual wedding but for various reasons that became too hard so we had a smallish wedding.

I always wanted the Vegas wedding though, so when we got the chance to go there a few years later we did a renewal purely so I could have my fun wish. No infidelity, done without anyone else, so no attention seeking or presents etc.

LagunaBubbles · 22/12/2018 06:48

We did a few years ago after 17 years marriage, nope no cheating and couldn't care less if that's what some people thought. We were going on holiday to California and I had always dreamed of getting married on a beach so me, DH and our 2 boys had a wonderful time just the 4 of us, and I have amazing memories.

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