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To not know whether to cancel?

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 21/12/2018 09:38

For a little background; I had a really neglectful childhood and am now orphaned. As such, I've never really been involved in Christmas celebrations beyond doing things with friends.

DP and I have been together a while now; previous Christmas' spent abroad but this year we are due at his parents (which is no problem; they are lovely to me).

He's gone out of his way to make it special for me this year. My first ever tree - a real one too! - my first stocking, a Christmas meal out earlier this week; some meet ups with friends etc. Stuff I'd usually love. On Saturday we've got a night booked at a hotel we love and some festive plans with friends; and then home until Tuesday when we'll go to his parents.

But I've been ill this week. I've had a recurrent cold for a few weeks; but I've been under extreme stress. On Monday I was diagnosed with a bladder infection; and on Tuesday with pneumonia. I'm on different antibiotics for both. I felt a bit better yesterday; but got no sleep last night for constant coughing and sneezing. It's still a very productive cough; a lot of mucus, and it's making me miserable. If the cough calms down; my nose streams and I'm sneezy and full of cold. Generally I feel a bit better in myself; when I'm not coughing or sneezing!

I'm taking lots of showers to ease breathing, cold and flu meds, drinking hot drinks with honey. I'm staying inside in the warm. I don't think there's much else I could do? But I'm torn about cancelling the hotel, giving it a go or sending DP by himself. He doesn't want to by himself. It's not refundable or transferable so we'd lose the money.

Would you cancel? The GP said I'm not contagious, at least, so that's something!

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Elphame · 21/12/2018 09:40

Go - still 48 hours til Saturday night

SilverLining10 · 21/12/2018 09:40

I dont think you should cancel. You still have today and tonight to recover a bit. He sounds lovely and you just might feel better by tomorrow.

TokyoSushi · 21/12/2018 09:40

I wouldn't cancel, but I might change my plans involving the hotel. Instead of meeting friends of whatever you were going to do use it as an opportunity to rest, have a nice dinner and relax. Would that be possible?

RandomMess · 21/12/2018 09:40

I'd go if you're not much better you can still snuggle up together in bed!

Just take loads of meds and snacks with you, watch Christmas films back to back Thanks

sackrifice · 21/12/2018 09:43

Sudafed. Dries up the nose allowing your cough to get better faster.

tealandteal · 21/12/2018 09:56

Go! If you are still ill, their shower will probably be better and the bed linen will be lovely and clean. If you are better you will enjoy it. Cancel the plans with friends if nessecary.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 21/12/2018 10:33

Thank you all!

I will ask DP to get sudafed and snacks at lunch; and he's generally doing a stellar job of looking after me. He's a lovely man!

Friends know that I'm poorly (incase they wanted to make different plans); but I'll message them later or early tomorrow morning and let them know if I'm up to it.

Thank you all Flowers

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katekat383 · 21/12/2018 10:35

Pneumonia is very serious. I would cancel.

fanfan18 · 21/12/2018 11:06

Pneumonia is very serious. I would cancel.

That was my first thought too.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 21/12/2018 20:24

I feel worse than ever now. Sick and dizzy and utterly miserable.

Trying to get DP to go enjoy it but he's not keen on going without me so current compromise is that I try to go with him and spend the time inside our room.

I can't remember the last time I felt so awful Sad

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RandomMess · 21/12/2018 20:28

You really need someone looking after you 24/7 DP can't go away and leave you on your own!

Foodylicious · 21/12/2018 20:30

Thete is a chance you may need diffetent antibiotics.
You should at least stop getting worse within 48hrs of starting them.

Can you get to a walk-in in the morning?

If all is good, and you feel up to it, then maybe go and enjoy room service?

pumpkinpie01 · 21/12/2018 20:31

Could you sell the night away on fb maybe then put the money towards a night away when you are better ?

MarmiteTermite · 21/12/2018 20:31

YANBU - when I had pneumonia I was scared to go to sleep as I was really scared I wouldn’t wake up. Can you cancel hotel and get refund so you can rebook when you are better? Also the first lot of antibiotics I took didn’t work and I had to change to different ones. Maybe you need to go back to your doctor? Really hope you feel better soon.

user1493413286 · 21/12/2018 20:33

If it’s not refundable or transferable I’d go anyway and just rest in a nice place; I can’t see why your DP would want to go by himself

Bluelady · 21/12/2018 20:35

Pneumonia is serious shit. Cancel.

MsJudgemental · 21/12/2018 20:39

DS had pneumonia when we were on a Christmas holiday in Iceland. We were worried as we had booked several trips in sub-zero temperatures. We were told that nothing we would do would make it worse, and overnight the antibiotics she gave him made him feel much better. Go, and use it as a chance to relax. Flowers

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 21/12/2018 20:40

I know it might not be transferable or refundable but if it's nearby could you get your partner to go and talk to them and explain and ask if they will give him a free nights stay in January instead (will probably be dead) or half price or something? They might do it so worth asking

If you feel really lousy I wouldn't go, the important thing is you get yourself better and as lovely as the hotel might be, you will probably be more comfortable in your pjs in your own home

If you've got annual travel insurance you may be able to claim if it's more than the excess (sometimes it comes with a debit or credit card so you might not think you have it)

sackrifice · 21/12/2018 20:40

The last place id want to be when ill is in a hotel room.

MarthaArthur · 21/12/2018 20:56

I know the hotel is non refundable but please phone them and explain the situation maybe moving the date. Sometimes they take pity. They did for me once when i had an incident that required changing the date despite a non redundable room.

Missingstreetlife · 21/12/2018 21:02

What is the matter with people. The last thing you want todo is travel. You need rest. Unless the hotel is next door wait till last minute in case you feel better, you won't get a refund anyway so might as well leave it open. Unless you think they would postpone (transfer is if someone goes in your place). They may be able to sell the room again.

stayathomegardener · 21/12/2018 21:07

Do you have a travel insurance policy with your bank or similar?
I'd stay at home with pneumonia.

Lake2 · 21/12/2018 21:14

Go! You will feel better by then!

Check for interactions but codiene will help your cough and antihistamine will help your runny nose.

Lake2 · 21/12/2018 21:17

Sorry, didn’t see your last post.

Hope you feel better- sounds like you have a lovely man. Try and not feel too bad, you will have plenty of happy times ahead with him.

glueandstick · 21/12/2018 21:31

Give it another couple of doses of antibiotics. I felt much better with pneumonia on about day 3.

You can always cancel last min. Get better soon!

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