AIBU

[Lunardog]

my son is 14 and he wants to go into town with his friends he is responsible and he will be back before 5 i have not let him out before and he is desperate to go.

Show your parents this thread.

If you’re genuine then that’s really shit.

I have a 14 year old daughter and I see my duty as a parent to equip her with the skills to become an adult.

I started letting her have independence bit by bit from about age 10. Short trips to safe places by herself or with friends.

Then going into town with friends.

We now live about a 50 minute train journey from her friends and she does that on her own. My only caveat is she’s on the train before it’s dark which is a little restrictive this time of year.

OP, my parents were exactly the same per my previous post. I really sympathise.

I think this style of parenting makes you more likely to get in with "the wrong crowd" as you are made to feel like an outsider from your peers.
That's the effect it had on me anyway.

Omg, this is quite awful and so bad for him socially and in general learning 'life and growing up'.
Your smothering him.... He will struggle maybe when he is allowed to move away from mummy.
Both mine will be in town after school tomorrow until 6 ish I phone them now and again to check but it's something I worry about but have to do to 'loosen' the apron strings as such.... You are being so VERY unreasonable.
Both mine are younger than yours by the way!

I didn't read all sorry.
Oh sweetheart I feel so sorry for you, you won't be the only one though.
Please show your mum this thread?
And just remember one day everything will be how you want it

Sorry you are going through this. It's not normal and maybe you could talk to your school about it after the holidays?

Do you have pastoral care or a teacher you can talk to. Let them know how much this is bothering you. They might have some ideas about helping your mother get over her fear. It's not fair to let her anxiety affect your future.

Is there another family member you could ask to speak to your mum? Grandparent, aunt/uncle? I really feel for you as I had a very overprotective upbringing. I'm sure your mum thinks she's doing the best by you but it's really not healthy.