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Husband is obsessed with pokemon

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NotForSale · 20/12/2018 17:46

He's an intelligent grown man and he works from home but he spends hours playing Pokemon. He goes on raids and us constantly looking at his phone- we can't even have a normal conversation. I've asked him to put his phone away/ limit his use but he is completely addicted!
A healthy hobby or ridiculous obsession?

OP posts:
Mrskeats · 20/12/2018 17:47

Seriously?

Iruka · 20/12/2018 17:48

Any hobby that takes over all your spare time to the detriment of relationships is bad. Not confined to Pokemon

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 20/12/2018 17:59

It's a great hobby within reason. If it's having an impact on your relationship, then it needs addressing, the same as any other hobby.

MrsStrowman · 20/12/2018 18:01

I played Pokémon go for a few months when it first came out, I had to walk across town for work and over the summer it encouraged me to get out hiking more. DH was slightly bemused but up for the extra rambles (and picnics). It was too much upkeep though and went by the wayside after a few months.

Kpo58 · 20/12/2018 18:06

Maybe it's because he doesn't have any other hobbies and as he works from home it's his only way to see other people to talk to?

HighwayDragon1 · 20/12/2018 18:08

Join the PoGo cult, I did, and am loving it! Everyone is so friendly on raids and community days mean long chats with random strang

Insomnibrat · 20/12/2018 18:08

Honestly I'd lose a little bit of respect for him over this, like.....REALLY!?!

user1473878824 · 20/12/2018 18:09

I couldn’t bear this OP but I don’t really know how you tackle it. If it helps 9-year-old DSS grew out of it.... so.... hope he gets bored?

Greenglassteacup · 20/12/2018 18:11

Odd hobby for an adult but I suppose there are worse things

RamblingFar · 20/12/2018 18:17

My partner decided to join in eventually.

I don't do much raiding or checking the app obsessively. However, if he's home alone a lot it probably a good hobby for socialisation.

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 20/12/2018 18:25

Honestly I'd lose a little bit of respect for him over this

Why?

Odd hobby for an adult

Why?

Greenglassteacup · 20/12/2018 18:29

I would say that it is quite unusual for an adult male to be into pokemon?

Greenglassteacup · 20/12/2018 18:29

Or an adult anyone

silkpyjamasallday · 20/12/2018 18:33

I had a male colleague who was obsessed with Pokemon, his partner also hated it because he was constantly on it. If it's detrimental to family/relationship time then you need to have a discussion about him limiting his game time. If he won't change then you have to make the choice to stay with a selfish idiot or leave and live a pokemon free existence

TedAndLola · 20/12/2018 18:37

I would say that it is quite unusual for an adult male to be into pokemon?

Not at all. Most players are adults and tend to have higher than average levels of education and income. medium.com/@sm_app_intel/pok%C3%A9mon-go-demographics-the-evolving-player-mix-of-a-smash-hit-game-b9099d5527b7

I don't understand how Pokemon Go can take up time at home. You can't do much at all from home unless your house happens to be within range of a stop or gym (highly unlikely). For raids, he would have to go outside and stand beside a physical location.

Figgygal · 20/12/2018 18:39

Isn't he about 2 years late?

MakeAHouseAHome · 20/12/2018 18:40

He needs to grow the ff up....

emmaluvseeyore · 20/12/2018 18:42

There’s nothing wrong with being an adult into Pokémon. Most of the people who play Pokémon Go are adults in my experience. The problem is that it is affecting his relationships. My DP and I play it, but we don’t sit at home constantly on it. If we go out we will be on it checking what’s nearby but we still interact with each other. It’s actually helped us get more exercise as we go out on walks to find Pokémon. Maybe he needs to limit his time on it, but it does sound like you’re exaggerating because you don’t think an adult should play on it at all. I highly doubt you can’t have a conversation ever.

NotACleverName · 20/12/2018 18:43

Why exactly is it an 'odd' hobby for an adult? I say this as someone who's played Pokémon Go, owns seven Pokémon games for the 3DS, has two Pokémon tattoos and is eagerly awaiting the main series games coming to the Switch.

dementedpixie · 20/12/2018 18:43

I still go out and get my pokestop and catch a Pokemon each day. I'm on a pokemon group on fb and they are adults. I started playing it with ds but he no longer plays it. I dont have anything in range at home so don't play it there

Greenglassteacup · 20/12/2018 18:44

I suppose hobbies are very subjective

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 20/12/2018 18:58

Interesting. So it's only odd or childish to those who don't play, then.

FWIW, most of my group of friends play and we're all mid to late 30s/early 40s.

The difference is, it doesn't ruin our relationships.

MrWolfknowsthetime · 20/12/2018 19:04

It's no more odd as a hobby than MNing on your phone is. And it's more sociable.

We have a few intelligent kids playing where I live, but it's mostly intelligent adults.

yesmelord · 20/12/2018 19:06

My DH plays it and has 'raid meet ups' with a few people in our city, 2 of these people are doctors and 1 is a high school teacher so I wouldn't say it's immature.

It can get a bit annoying though I give you that, but I guess my hobby can be a bit annoying for him too sometimes.

BaronessBomburst · 20/12/2018 19:08

My local PG group is over 18's only, and they're nearly all men.

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