Quick straw poll - badly behaved child at play date

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Due to be picked up in 10 minutes so I need your advice!

8yr old visiting child - notoriously high spirited - has gone into my purse and taken £80.
I actually can't even believe it myself.
I have read the riot act and will cool off the friendship but do I tell the parents?
I feel I should spare them the embarrassment.
Child definitely hasn't learnt the behaviour from parents.
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Of course tell the parents - why wouldn't you?

Definitely tell

Christ tell the parents as if you need to ask

Yes you do tell them!
Not only cool but end the friendship, theiving little toerag

Yes, you need to tell them! Bugger the embarrassment, I'd be livid if my child behaved like that.

Tell!

I'm assuming you got it back?

Yes. Just say that you had to have a word with her because she went in your purse. You'll be doing her a favour.

You’ve got to tell the parents, what if they do it in someone else’s house and don’t get caught?

I'm assuming you got it back?

^This!!

Absolutely tell them!

Absolutely tell the parents!

Yes I got it back.
I suspect child has adhd and it wouldn't be he first time I had had to tell them about serious bad behaviour at a play date.
Parents are mortified and doing their best.
I suppose that's why I'm hesitant.

Tell,they can’t deal with it if don’t know

If I was the mother I 100% would want to know. My child would be severely punished for something like that. No tech, no tv, no seeing their friends until they're 21.....

yep tell am afraid.

Also I suppose I feel culpable for not supervising more closely as I know the child isn't trustworthy

God, yes, tell them! How did you find out?

Just let them know, it’s a teaching opportunity.

You should tell them - I understand your reservations regarding suspected ADHD but they need to know. You don’t have to be disapproving just be matter of fact and to the point without making an judgements

Tell them matter of factly, in a ‘x happened, I dealt with it in y way’. It doesn’t sound like they’re likely to kick off about it, but they do need to know.

Tell them. They can't deal with issues they don't know about. Doesn't matter how many problems he has; they need to know about them all included the stealing.

Mortified or not I’d want to know if my child did this. How can I deal with it if I don’t know about it?

Ok I will tell at a later date.
Child has gone now and I'm busy having stern words with my own dc who was egging on other bad behaviour (although not the stealing).

Why would you wait to tell them?

If stealing is a new thing they need to know so they can start acting on it now.