To ask WTF you get for (ungrateful) family who already have everything?

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My brother and SIL are very well off and are the worst to buy presents for. They have very specific tastes in EVERYTHING. I've tried buying them expensive lovely things and I've also tried handmade things and everything in between. All receive the same shrug reactions and it's just so annoying. It would be nice to get them something that actually bought a smile to their face for once.

(Also despite their shit reactions to everyone's gifts they are nice people and always buy AMAZING gifts for everyone)
Wtf do I buy?! They are expecting a baby soon, maybe I should just get something for the baby!? But I know they have very specific taste in baby clothes too. Nightmare

Wtf do I get!

What about a book on amazing ways to wrap gifts, and some wrapping paper.
A lovely bit of implied criticism

Agree a present amnesty in advance. They clearly don't want anything.

I agree a bale of hay.
Delivered to their door!!

A charity gift of a goat or a toilet. See oxfam website.

Please consider twinning their toilet. Yes it’s a thing .

www.toilettwinning.org

Xmas presents are not compulsory.

As they are expecting a baby, maybe something nice like a board book for then their baby arrives (Peepo by the Ahlbergs is a lovely classic) and a charity gift like Delivering a Baby through Unicef.

market.unicef.org.uk/inspired-gifts/help-deliver-a-baby/S9902218A/

or help in a crisis for mums and babies

www.oxfam.org.uk/shop/oxfam-unwrapped/occasion-gifts/new-baby-care-for-mums-and-babies-ou1234re?intcmp=ou-home-product-new-baby-care-for-mums-and-babies

I'd be delighted by something like that. Indeed, for a christening present my daughter had 4 babies registered in sub-saharan africa, where births are often unregistered meaning when the child grows up s/he won't be able to vote.

TBH they sound extremely rude and ungrateful - I have family who are well off and both them and their DCs are always extremely grateful for whatever they get regardless wether it's a £1 box of chocs or expensive designer stuff as they know it's the thought that counts.

If you're really set on buying something I'd probably just buy consumables - nice chocolates (whatever brand they like my SIL loves Hotel Chocolat) and whatever alcohol they drink. For them to share.

Or a takeaway bag with all their discarded gifts from the year before 😂

Yep - buy something that you really like and want and then when they leave it, you can have it!
Job done!

The way they behave is rude. Just agree with them not to do gifts anymore, it sounds like a waste of time.

Amazon gift card. I'm very fussy and hard to shop for, I love an Amazon gift card.

There's no point buying gifts for people who have enough income to buy whatever they want for themselves. Gift-giving is a pointlessly destructive custom in that case, costs the giver without benefiting the recipient. The gifts may even be a burden to the recipient.

In my view there should be three classes of people when it comes to gifts:-
a) those you don't buy for because they are too well-off for it to mean anything
b) those among the remainder with the mental competence to spend money, you give them money because economic research shows that making their choice for them destroys value
c) those without money or the ability to deploy it, usually very young children. These are the only ones who should be given gifts other than money.

A bed for a homeless person for the night?

Seriously if they need nothing, someone else does. I love when people do something like this instead of a gift for me, makes me very happy.

@PossiblyPFB we did toilet twinning last year, brilliant idea!

This year I'm supporting this fundraising.bethanychristiantrust.com/event/bab18 for those who don't need more stuff

This video hits home for me

This years updated video

@katseyes7
Happy Gothmas 😆

Do they actually want presents? The leaving them behind (not even keeping them to swap or sell) suggests they don't. I personally am sick of having to appear grateful for presents I don't want, especially since I have clearly said that I know I'm hard to buy for and would rather people didn't waste time getting me anything.

Maybe ask them?

thedevilinablackdress And to you! :D

SO rude! Tell them you're not buying for the adults anymore - just kids - means you'll have to sacrifice your gift from them but small price to pay! Then spend the next few years buying niece/nephew lots of brightly coloured plastic toys with VERY loud sounds!! What fun!! 🤣