To ask WTF you get for (ungrateful) family who already have everything?

[dangerhighvolt]

My brother and SIL are very well off and are the worst to buy presents for. They have very specific tastes in EVERYTHING. I've tried buying them expensive lovely things and I've also tried handmade things and everything in between. All receive the same shrug reactions and it's just so annoying. It would be nice to get them something that actually bought a smile to their face for once.

(Also despite their shit reactions to everyone's gifts they are nice people and always buy AMAZING gifts for everyone)
Wtf do I buy?! They are expecting a baby soon, maybe I should just get something for the baby!? But I know they have very specific taste in baby clothes too. Nightmare

Wtf do I get!

I’m hard to buy for - nothing but wine and gin will always be consumed.

I have some of these, actually we've stopped doing gifts, but previously they would just send us a link to whatever it was they wanted.

I'd say a Jo Malone candle is always well-received, as is a decent bottle of fizz or wine. Both can be re-gifted easily enough if they really don't like them...

Or just vouchers - as PP say, John Lewis always a good call.

Baby things?

They should learn not to be dismissive of gifts they are given.

Beautiful flowers are always welcome.

PS: Especially if already arranged.

Quite often they leave all the gifts they don't want when they go home 😂

Really? Rude gits then get them a charity goat or bale of hair or whatever. That's so extremely rude I can't believe you all put up with it.

*hay

Or joke presents like grow your own Jesus.

I’d get them a voucher for a posh restaurant near their home. Gives them a chance to have a lovely meal out before baby comes. Just make sure it’s not a sushi restaurant.

Alternatively a hamper of posh foodstuffs

Buy something you would really like. Then when they leave it behind, keep and enjoy it

Do they go to events? Ticketmaster do gift cards.

Sounds like what they really need is a book on manners

I would just get something you want. Then if they take it home, they obviously liked it. IF they leave it behind, it's yours! Win win!

Have you tried suggesting that you just stop gifts for adults? If they are generally nice, why not phone up and say, you don't appear to enjoy getting gifts, shall we all agree to stop doing it?

Don't buy baby clothes for them. Ask them if there's a piece of equipment they'd like, then buy them exactly what they want. I think it's fairly obvious that they have very specific likes and dislike, so I can't understand why you seem insistent on getting them a surprise. Maybe suggest dropping the present-buying, and instead have a day out together or go for a nice meal somewhere of their choosing?

Buy something you would really like. Then when they leave it behind, keep and enjoy it

Ding! Ding! Ding! Winner!

Quite often they leave all the gifts they don't want when they go home 😂

Why are you laughing, these aren't nice people at all they're rude and ill mannered.

Extremely rude. I often get gifts I don't like but I would never say or leave them behind (WTAF!!!).
However, I would listen to what they are telling you and stop getting them gifts AT ALL.
Charity goat or nothing.

Why worry about it. Get your husband to deal with it, ask them what they want or get vouchers as others have suggested.

What type of things have they turned their noses up before?

My mother used to be a bit like this. She was an absolute nightmare to buy for. Didn't use toiletries, perfume, skin care or makeup. Didn't read 'because it hurt her back' (?) lf anyone gave her sweets or chocolates, "l have one a day til they're gone." With the result that there'd be boxes of out of date chocolates in the cupboard.
She had no hobbies or interests. Didn't go out or socialise.
Over the years my ex husband and l bought her lots of things that were either grudgingly received or handed back.
Lovely fleecy blankets because she always complained of being cold. They were either handed back to us or "l've given it to XXX because l won't use it."
Plants/flowers - given away within a day or two. "l don't know what she's/you've given me this for."
Nice quality slippers. "l can't wear them. The heel's too high. (On bog standard, fluffy-granny-type slippers?!?) You can have them back. You wear them. "
One Christmas she asked my cousin (who had small kids, a full time job and other commitments) to "make me a nice coffee and walnut cake." Which she did, only for my mother to say to me "Tell our XXX that cake was too big. l just want a little one next year." lt was baked in 7" sandwich tins. When l told my cousin she said "l haven't got a smaller one!"
A friend of my dad (who was one of the few people who still bothered to visit because of her attitude!) used to take her a nice little hamper every Christmas with tea, coffee and shortbread biscuits. The year before she died she said to me "l'm going to tell XXX not to bring me shortbread any more. l don't like it. l don't know why he brings it. "
lt used to embarrass me terribly that she was so rude and ungrateful when people had bothered to get her a present.

l got to the point where l'd tell her to buy something she wanted and l'd give her the money for it, like a nice cardigan, dressing gown or a coat, then l topped it up with token gifts like a small box of sweets, warm socks, etc.
l'm with some of the previous posters on this one. lf they're rude and ungrateful enough to actually leave things behind that you've given them, buy a charity gift like a goat or a beehive for their 'present', or donate to a good cause on their behalf.
At least the recipients will actually appreciate it!

@dangerhighvolt if they leave presents behind why not just get them something you would quite like for yourself?

@katseyes7 that's some Olympic standard ingratitude there! Almost amusing, though probably not when you're dealing with it.
You cannot ever please some people and we should not try.

Quite often they leave all the gifts they don't want when they go home How rude.

Something that you'd like?

Don't know what your skill set is but a voucher for a baby shawl/blanket in their choice of colour and you can choose the pattern with them?

I think either buy something you want or say to them that you’ve made a charity donation on their behalf.

Let’s see them shrug then!

Don’t allow them to be so fucking ungrateful! It’s obscene!

You sound lovely- but FAR too accommodating!

thedevilinablackdress Oh, you're telling me! And this was the woman who used to tell me that l was ungrateful! l did once counter that with "and l wonder where l get that from?"
Got told "l wish you could hear the way you talk to me sometimes...."

(Love your name by the way! l'm tempted to follow it with 'My guardian angel walks away')