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PrincessDoormat18 · 19/12/2018 06:12

I had a birthday recently, a significant one. I don't usually make a big deal on my birthday, I'm usually quite happy to just have a night off from cooking. My OH usually takes the children out to by me a few gifts. This year however, he proudly announces he had done all the giftbuying. I unwrapped a bottle of his favourite wine, a selection of fruit and nut chocolates ( I hate fruity chocolate with a passion) and, to top it off, a large, framed photo of him. Taken using the beauty filter on his phone. My birthday dinner consisted of a scoop of chips from the chippy, and he kindly poured me a glass of "my" birthday wine, before drinking the rest. I declined the chocolate and he's accused me of being fussy and not appreciating him.

I'm completely baffled that the OH would think this acceptable. He does have form for being a wee bit useless at this sort of thing, but I think he's taking the piss, and he thinks I'm behaving like a spoilt princess. Who is out of order here?

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VimFuego101 · 20/12/2018 11:41

That's truly shit, but at least Christmas is around the corner so you can return the favour by gifting him all your favourite items.

VimFuego101 · 20/12/2018 11:41

Or you could gift him his picture back with some googly eyes stuck on it...

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NameyMcNameyChangey · 20/09/2019 12:06

I think I'd be a bit pissed off, and I'm not someone who gives a shit about gifts (normally cant think of anything I want and I dont like waste so I'd rather have nothing). If you do get a gift you're supposed to think what the RECIPIENT wants. Not you. He didnt put any time, effort or expense into these presents! Although I guess you could replace his photo with one of the kids

Ask him how he would feel if you bought him (insert something you like but he hates - for my husband that would be boozy chocolate and watching a depressing subtitled film for example) for his birthday. Not in an accusing way but in a genuine please tell me what you would really think type way. And if he still thinks you're being ungrateful then buy it for him next time

Chloemol · 20/09/2019 12:28

When it comes to his next birthday just do the same, buy what you like and he doesn’t and eat and drink it all

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 12:30

ZOMBIE

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