Christmas card disagreement

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DP and I were finishing writing Christmas cards last night. We did cards that we were giving out to people by hand. DP said that we had to give different cards to people who would be opening the cards at the same time. He said if a friend saw we had given another friend the same Christmas card, that that was rude. It showed we had not thought about what card we would give to them. I thought DP was just over thinking all this.

Christmas cards are a bit crazy - way better that you make an effort to keep in touch with genuine friends year round surely?

I ws the other way sometimes.i got worried if I sent different whether one was nicer than the other so they would think that too and therefore think I liked them less!oh god.yup im an overthinker.

"Life is too short to worry about this nonsense."

It really is.

We only send out one design , this year it was our dog playing in the snow from last winter .

What does the Queen do? Guessing it's the same posed photo card for all? I'd not be offended by that.
But us mere mortals not sure.

I generally do small (cheaper) cards for kids and normal size for adults but that’s about it. I also send one per household, I can’t imagine sending several different ones.

I'm with your DP I'm afraid. Always do this.

I kind of agree with him, I do the same!

I get people who will see others’ cards the SAME card so that nobody can be upset that their card isn’t as special.
^^Totally.

I can see why he said it but equally I doubt people would give that much of a shit either

This morning I opened three cards. When I went to hang them on the wall five minutes later, I'd forgotten who had given them to me. I wouldn't notice, to be honest...but I do give different cards to two neighbours who are mother and daughter.

I make sure I don't give people the same cards but I am a bit obsessive. I have to admit, if I got the same card as some one else, it wouldn't bother me at so I don't know why I worry about this.

I used to try to mix and vary the cards so they were more interesting. Now since having DCs, I've fallen out of the habit of sending them anyway.

If we've had one of the printed children's drawing type cards, the whole family will have had them. Not offended

Never heard of this, I do take care to choose appropriate cards for different people, ie; I choose religious cards for people I think will appreciate them and a more secular design for known atheists. It always amuses me when atheist friends send me a religious card but maybe they have chosen it specially as they know I a church goer? . I even make sure I source religious stamps for religious friends which was quite hard this year.

I remember a thread where posters where offended, mortally offended if someone was rude and thoughtless enough to give them a card FROM A MULTI-PACK

as each card must apparently be purchased specifically for the recipient

BUT it was also be seen as vulgar if you purchased a card where the recipient "title" pre-printed (Grandma, cousin or the dog)

I still have a few years of charity cards for the schools so problem solved here

I am a bit of a worrier and an overthinker, (sometimes,) but I couldn't get bothered about this.

I buy a pack of 40, with 4 different designs (10 of each obvs) and I couldn't give a shit if 3 or 4 people who know each other (and may open them at the same time) realise they have the same card!

I doubt if they will care either. Especially as LOADS of boxes of cards only have 3 to 4 designs.

Like a previous poster I prefer to give everyone opening together the same card so no-one thinks ...hmm ...they like her better than me. Just overthinking in a different way.

Wouldn't even cross my mind to think of this as an issue.

@Ragwort I am an atheist and would usually pick out the religious cards in the pack for my church going friends, so that is probably right!

I also try to make sure people opening cards at the same time don’t have the same card, although it does work out that way sometimes. If I got the same card as others I wouldn’t be offended - I would notice though

I like getting the same cards as friends/family. When I go round their’s houses I play ‘spot the card from so-and-so’!

Maybe it's just as I've lived half my life in Germany where people don't give Christmas cards except to people living far away (and would find it totally weird to give anyone a card), but personally it feels stupid to me to open someone's card right in front of them and read out what they just wrote to them. I save the couple I get here from expats for later. Am I being "rude" or perhaps super-polite as I am saving you the excruciating embarrassment of being exposed as a single-design card-giver?

I'm with your DP on this. If I know cards I am sending will be seen by others, I always send different designs.

If your DP gets offended by receiving the same card as someone else, it's his CHOICE to be offended and that makes him a childish twat, (in my view).
There is no rule that you are breaking by giving the same card to different people.
Please tell him to grow up.

Some people have way too much time on their hands.

No my DP works long hours.