Am I in the wrong?

[MelissaN93]

Evening All.

5 months ago I gave birth to my DD. Best day of my life, I was very nervous as I'm a FTM so most things scared me. DF didn't understand where I was coming from and we argued quite a bit. Name calling was his "favourite" thing. No matter what I did I was always wrong. He thought everything was going to go back to how it was before we conceived, I knew it wasn't going too. In recent weeks we've got on so much better and I mentioned another baby by the time my DD is two, his response was "after the first one I think I'll wait a little bit longer because you were a nightmare" AIBU in thinking this is a little bit wrong of him?

@ThumbWitchesAbroad I've never heard that saying before but I like it :) thank you. Guess I'm just holding out, I don't want DD without her Dad :/

It's so sad that the best thing you can say about this arsehole is that he's not violent. Please don't contemplate marrying him or having another baby with him. And don't tell him you're going to leave, just do it.

@DeepanKrispanEven it's a sad world when that's all I can say I suppose..I do thing I need to find the courage to do that and not say a word

I don't want DD without her Dad :/

You can't make it right for her, and in a way it's best done sooner rather than further down the line. None of this is your fault, but you can help to keep you both safe, physically and emotionally.

@TeaPot496 I think I'm going to start looking for elsewhere to live now..I'd at least like to save some sort of friendship for the sake of DD with him..

Why would you want to have more children with him?

@DrinkFeckArseGirls I guess it's wishful thinking.

Ah good on you OP, that's a really brave, positive decision x

@TeaPot496 thank you for your advise! You've been brilliant x

I hope you find somewhere else to live with DD soon but I definitely agree you shouldn't say anything to him until it's a done deal, just in case.

It's always sad when you realise that the father of your baby/child isn't the right person to spend the rest of your life with, but it's definitely better to realise that sooner rather than later and get out while you still can.

Best of luck finding somewhere new to live!

don't want to be in another abusive relationship as I've had abuse all my life from family and my ex partner :/ only difference with this one is he's not violent

You are in an abusive relationship, emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse, just because you can't see the wounds doesn't make it any less damaging.

Melissa, the saying comes from this post in Relationships, which has been endorsed by MNHQ:

[[http://Right, listen up everybody.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/698029-Right-listen-up-everybody]]

Sounds like a fabulous idea to crack on ASAP sand have another baby with a man who calls you names. Really good. Enjoy that one.

Don't hve more babies with this man, he sounds awful and if he's treating you like now it'll only get worse.

Clickable link to the thread BoF mentioned:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/698029-Right-listen-up-everybody

@MelissaN93 - hope you had a nice Christmas - are you still there, how are things going?