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Original poster

ridiculous parking from neighbour

269 replies

pinklemonade84 · 17/12/2018 23:08

I’m beyond fed up of this parking situation. This is our situation tonight. Dh is due back from work in about 20 minutes and because of this ridiculous parking from neighbour’s dd, won’t be able to park our Citroen Picasso (not a small car)

We’ve lived here for over a year now and had no problems parking. Last month we had neighbours move in next door and their daughter is absolutely horrific at parking, to the extent where I’ve had to climb over the passenger seat to get into the drover’s seat

They also let their dog out at stupid o clock morning and night and it immediately starts barking!

There’s not even anything we can do as they ignore the door when we knock. They own their house and we rent through a housing association, so there’s not even a landlord we could ask to have a word.

ridiculous parking from neighbour
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MagnificentSevenHeaven · 18/12/2018 13:30

You really are being unreasonable by moaning online about it

I never understand this - the whole point of AIBU is to have a fucking moan!!

It's more than reasonable to have a moan online - you can do it in bed, from work, on the bus....

Pinkyyy · 18/12/2018 13:54

the whole point of AIBU is to have a fucking moan

No, it really isn't. It's to ask the question of whether or not something/someone is being unreasonable. This post poses no question, the OP is basically here to tell everyone that she believes her neighbour is BU. She doesn't want to be told otherwise and didn't state that she was purely here to moan.

SilverDragonfly1 · 18/12/2018 13:56

Next time you get a parcel, wait for them to collect it from you. Then you will have control over how long the interaction takes.

BitOutOfPractice · 18/12/2018 14:00

I hear you OP. The person with the space next to us got used to parking at all sorts of angles while our space wasn't being used (flat was empty for 6 months) and it took him a while to work out he needed to park better to make it easy for both of us to get in and out comfortably. It's very irritating

TheWickerWoman · 18/12/2018 14:27

Parking ON the white line is not parking within the white line, it’s shit parking and of course it would not make it easy for the neighbouring car.

You do need to mention it to them.

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 15:26

I like this idea @SilverDragonfly1

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sosoverytired · 18/12/2018 15:37

My car makes yours look like a toy and I could park and get out and get my kids out of their seats. So I do think you are being unreasonable. When I started reading I thought maybe she'd parked over 3 bays but this is insignificant. Lol.

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 15:42

The whole reason I posted on aibu was to have a moan about ndn dd ridiculous parking. I’m pretty sure a lot of you saying that iabu would feel just as pissed off if you were having to deal with this all of a sudden

I don’t agree with dh parking further across as it creates a problem for our other ndn and it’s not fair on her. Part of the reason why I don’t want to leave a note is I don’t want it to be taken the wrong way. That’s why dh is going to try and have a word when he sees the mum next time, unless I see them first

I’m not some horrible neighbour. My dog doesn’t bark constantly (he really doesn’t, he only barks once or twice if he’s spooked). We don’t blast music. Dd isn’t overly loud, yes she’ll occasionally have a tantrum, but what 2 year old doesn’t? But as far as some of you are concerned, I’m in the wrong for being frustrated and angry about the amount of times that I’ve had to resort to climbing over seats because of how the dd parks

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Pigflewpast · 18/12/2018 15:58

sosoverytired how do you know you could park there? You haven’t seen the bay, the car the other side or the layout. Some parking spaces are wide and this wouldn’t matter. Obviously in this case it’s not wide and this is enough to stop OP being able to get her toddler in and out. So no, you couldn’t park there and get your kids out and no it isn’t insignificant.

Bahhhhhumbug · 18/12/2018 16:08

But you don't need to park further over. Your dh could drive in and park central in your space. Then she can still get in her driver's door, your drivers door would be on your other neighbours side so that would be easily accessible and you could still put your child in the car seat as you would have equal access to your rear door on drivers side. You could simply shuffle child across if you wanted them on passenger side. I don't see how which way you are facing has any impact on how much space your other ndn has. Your car is same width all the way down presumably! Or maybe you were giving your ndn extra berth on her side but once again that's really not your ndn dd's problem.

Shriek · 18/12/2018 16:20

OPi see you have 'liked' the passive aggressive response only.

Instead of simply parki g nose in, which will totally avoid any issue. Clearly there no need to park closer to them, and you have chosen to ignore the fact that you parkng within your lines will not impact the neighbour either.

I think you are looking for trouble to want to speak to her about this. Your DH car is not then when she turns into the space and she simply doesn't bother to straighten up.

I see no reason why you shouldn't have a moan about that here,but you are refusing to do the simple non-confrtation thing and park nose in. The only one that's going to struggle to get out will be her and you will not impact neighbour.

It's annoying for this to suddenly start happening, but you have space.
You are just refusing to be flexible from your reaction to the offers of helpful advice given here

erykahb · 18/12/2018 16:31

If you've got kids to get out I would be so pissed too

Bahhhhhumbug · 18/12/2018 16:37

and no it wouldn't bother me one iota as l know how to park to optimise whatever space l have.

Shriek · 18/12/2018 16:43

There is space for kids to get out, clearly

Didyeeaye · 18/12/2018 17:01

Think you are over reacting. Yes she is on the line and not straight but there should be ample room for your car in the next space. I agree with other posts that say the issue is having a big car in a small communal car park.

Pissedoffdotcom · 18/12/2018 17:04

Love it. OP, you are unreasonable for expecting someone who has passed their test to park considerately (something my instructor drilled into me when i was learning), & instead should have chosen a smaller car on the off chance some muppet moving in next door couldn't park properly.

Ah i've missed MN logic 😂

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 17:15

If we park nose in first dd has to climb over seats to get to hers. If we reverse in then the driver has to climb over. Why on earth should I just suck it up?

Also how on earth is it passive aggressive to wait for one of them to collect their parcels, so I can try and have a word? I’m not a bloody postman, so why should I be expected to take them to their door when they’re in?

It was also driven into me when I was learning to drive that unless my car was parked suitably then I didn’t leave it until it was parked properly. It took me half an hour to park properly the day after passing my test, because I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone else. It’s called common courtesy

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ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn · 18/12/2018 17:16

OP ffs either leave a note or go and hammer on their door until they answer and tell them straight.

You’re working yourself up into a tizzy but we can’t change it! You can!

Shriek · 18/12/2018 17:28

OP you are adamant not to park close to your other lady driver, so that tells us you have adequate space down the o/s of the car for driver and rear seat access, so what you are saying does simply not make senses unless you are parking diagonally with daughters car?!

If you can't see how pass agg that is then that's your problem, but it is, very!

It only takes driving in straight properly nose-in a few times, which will make it impossible for the diagonal parking antics to be impossible to gain access to drivers door a few times to possibly change habits, but if it doesn't then no matter, it need not affect you

BlueJay1 · 18/12/2018 18:12

Maybe knock again, see if they could move the car over slightly.

It's not that bad though, honestly.

Cachailleacha · 18/12/2018 18:20

They are not over the line. Just park dead centre in the middle of the lines, driver gets in, rear passengers can get in on driver's side, reverse out and then front passenger can get in. No inconvenience.

malmi · 18/12/2018 18:41

OP the reason you've not got the reaction you wanted is because your description of the situation is so over-egged ('horrific', 'ridiculous') as to make yourself sound over-dramatic, borderline unhinged.

If you'd just asked 'AIBU to be annoyed at my neighbour's inconsiderate parking? It makes it awkward when she parks on the line like this' then it would have been tea and sympathy all round.

itscalledwineflu · 18/12/2018 18:49

It needs straightening up but it's not that bad , can you take another picture with car next to it so we can see ? I can't honestly see how a cat can't park next to it .

itscalledwineflu · 18/12/2018 18:49

Car not cat Grin

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 18:52

@malmi at the time that I posted last night, I was just so angry about it all that that really did influence how I was explaining it

Yes the explanation could have been toned down. But, like I say, I’ve had a month of this and it’s just got to the point where I snapped

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