Dish washing dilemma

[VelvetKitty]

Boring post and also this is more of a whoIBU than AIBU but please help me settle a debate.

DP and I have different methods of washing dishes (no dishwasher!) and the way he does it drives me mad!

I fill the sink with hot soapy water and wash cleanest to dirtiest i.e. glasses first, pots and pans last. We only have a sink and draining board so if I can be bothered I'll go back at the end and rise the suds but usually they're just left to drain.

DP leaves the hot tap running washing each individual item and rinsing as he goes, also using copious amounts of washing liquid as inevitably its washed away after every other thing he cleans!!

He thinks my way is disgusting as things are being cleaned in dirty water - I will add that if there's a lot of dishes I will change the water once I feel it's too dirty! However, I think he's being wasteful and so environmentally unfriendly!!

So... WIBU?

Your way!

Sorry, I mean your way is the right way.

I'm with you OP. Your DP is just wasteful.

You are both half right, rinsing afterwards is essential.

I do it your way. That's how I was taught, both at home and at school. However, I do rinse glasses under the tap, and ideally I'd have a double sink with a clean bowl to rinse in.

I know I should rinse afterwards but I'm lazy

I do always rinse glasses before I use them though!

I’m with DP, that’s the way I’ve always done it- I like each dish rinsed clean.

You are right No need to waste loads of hot water.

Yeah half right. Your way is correct but you should still be rinsing. His way is barking

I'm with you OP, but each to their own and all that.

This is tough because logically speaking I know a) is the more environmentally friendly and efficient option, but putting my hands in dirty water or looking at water that has bits of food, etc. floating in it makes me want to hurl, so I do b).

However we now have a dishwasher and can never be without one again so I can rest easy.

You both have elements that are right but more importantly can't you both just do it differently, live and let live. Vive la difference!

The third way:

Run the tap really slowly, everything stacked in the bowl, soap and rinse as you go so that the soapy water fills the bowl and soaks the stuff on the bottom, making it easier to wash at the end.

Job done, no soap left on the dishes, only a bowlful of water used.

I’m absolutely with your DP if I had to choose one of you.

Ideally you should get a plastic bowl/bucket where you can rinse the dishes after washing in the sink. Then you won’t waste water. Not rinsing at all is just minging.

I do it the way your husband does. I cannot wash things in dirty water. I have one of the sponges that dispenses liquid so I don't waste that. I also have to rinse it everything tastes soapy.

I’m with your husband. The idea of washing dishes in dirty water turns my stomach. It’s foul.

The way your DH does it would send me bonkers, too wasteful.

I do it your the right way.

I'm with your DP but it's because I hate having my hands in a bowl of hot water and when in was 13 I had a little waitress job and the other girl used to put the most disgusting dishes in the bowl for me to wash so big chunks of food were always floating around. I hated it.

Rinsing is essential. As is a dishwasher, I'd never be without one.

If I wash by hand I use your way, but then rinse each item separately (not under a running tap though - that is very wasteful!)

I'm with your DH. That's exactly how I wash up and despite knowing it's a waste of hot water, I just don't want to eat or drink from plates and cups that have had warm sloppy bubbles sliding off of them while they drip dry.
I actually feel really yuk whenever I see anyone wash up without rinsing. How are the dishes properly clean if they are covered in a film from the dirty bubbly soapy suds? Your DH's way is far more hygienic.

I am on a water meter too but washing up still all needs to be rinsed in hot water.

Washing dishes in dirty water and not rinsing is a uniquely British thing. Ugh. It's possible to be both hygienic and not wasteful.

I do it the same way as your husband, and also do the stacking of bowls in the sink mentioned by someone else!

I keep the water flow turned right down (you don't need much) and it's a really quick job so don't think all that much water is wasted compared with a sink full.

Added bonus is you can just let rinsed plates dry on the rack without having to dry them up! I just leave them and put them away a bit later.

I go with DameFanny's way.

So either you compromise, or you go out of the kitchen when it's the other's turn to do the dishes. If my DH ever criticises the way I do any cleaning, he can take over for the following year at least

If you can, even a half-width dish-washer is worth having, saves so much time, energy, water, and argument