Dish washing dilemma

[VelvetKitty]

Boring post and also this is more of a whoIBU than AIBU but please help me settle a debate.

DP and I have different methods of washing dishes (no dishwasher!) and the way he does it drives me mad!

I fill the sink with hot soapy water and wash cleanest to dirtiest i.e. glasses first, pots and pans last. We only have a sink and draining board so if I can be bothered I'll go back at the end and rise the suds but usually they're just left to drain.

DP leaves the hot tap running washing each individual item and rinsing as he goes, also using copious amounts of washing liquid as inevitably its washed away after every other thing he cleans!!

He thinks my way is disgusting as things are being cleaned in dirty water - I will add that if there's a lot of dishes I will change the water once I feel it's too dirty! However, I think he's being wasteful and so environmentally unfriendly!!

So... WIBU?

I’m with your DP! The thought of washing dishes in a sink full of dirty water and mess makes me feel a bit sick!

I dinthem your way. I clean out the sink and get rid of any boys of food first DH doesn’t he just chucks in half full bowls etc 🤮🤢. He doesn’t rinse out sink first either so if anything is in the sink it’s floating round thr washing up. We have a dishwasher now and it’s much better.

Yuck if you don't rinse afterward.

Yuck if you don't rinse afterward.

I stayed in an eco lodge in Europe for a while and one of the eco things in place was that none of the sinks had plugs!

It generally uses less water to wash and rinse under the tap rather that have a whole sink full of water which you have to change when it gets dirty, then use more water to rinse

So your DH is right

His way is easier and gets the dishes cleaner your way is much less wasteful so I would go for your way.

I was brought up (in the UK) to wash up in a bowl (your way) but moved to a country where washing up is done under running water. This seemed wasteful to me at first but now I wouldn't dream of using the same dirty water to "clean" everything. BUT my husband and I have two separate ways of doing it. His drives me mad (on the extremely rare occasions that he does it).
I'll wash each item, stack on the left hand of the sink then rinse off under the tap and put on the draining board, turning the tap off between each item. He'll leave the tap running, wash and rinse each item as he goes. I silently seethe at the waste of water but wouldn't want to put him off actually getting his hands wet

Washing dishes in dirty water and not rinsing is a uniquely British thing. Ugh. It's possible to be both hygienic and not wasteful.

This!! Your DH is right OP. Gross to not rinse.

Your way but with a quick rinse after, and a new bowl of water once it starts getting a bit grim.

I'm with the OP's DP! I don't think all the dishes etc can possibly be clean if dirty water is being used and I'm religious about rinsing away any suds. I always wash everything using running water. My husband, on the other hand, does exactly the same as the OP. Yuk!

His way. I’d hate to eat off a plate that’s been washed in dirty water🤢

@FoxInABox I do it the same as the partner too- I have OCD though and prefer it all to be really clean.

I think you can wash more than one item in a bowl of hot soapy water if you are sensible and rinse. after all we wash a lot of clothes in the washing machine and then rinse all together afterwards.

I wash OP's way (mostly)and pans separately at the end, then stack all in the rack then pour over a pan of very hot water and it all gets a rinse in one go.

I wash ours in a bowl of very hot very soapy water starting from glasses and plates first then pots and pans. But I also rinse each item with hot water after it has been washed.

When I saw my OH wash dishes the first time and saw him not rinsing I was so shocked I had to leave the kitchen. He now rinses

I do it your way OP! Didn’t even know rinsing was a thing until I read this thread as I’ve never seen anyone do it! A bowl of glasses is not washing in ‘dirty’ water, most of our glasses have only had water in them! Plates next, then pots. You just need to use water hot enough.

Plates next, then pots. You just need to use water hot enough Can you not see that there will be food/fat/oil residue in the water though? It's just grim. It's the same as bath vs shower.

Also with DameFanny.

A mix.
Water in washing up bowl.
Would have rinsed off the worst (say gravy on a plate) when stacking in the first place.
Start with 'cleanest' things and work through to dirtier things. For a normal meal for two this will all work through one washing up session - might go for a fresh bowl of water f a 'big wash'.
However I would rinse suds off everything before putting it to drain. I put the (cold) tap on and off though, don't leave it running and certainly don't waste hot water doing it.

I rinse everything first under hot water so it 'looks clean' ie. No food bits to get the water dirty. I then wash everything in a bowl of hot soapy water and rinse after too.