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Aibu for going mad at friend who never paid me back?

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Coldshoulders · 17/12/2018 20:12

So basically I borrowed a friend some money quite a few weeks ago now. We live in different towns so I transferred the money to her bank account which she received and thanked me for. We had an arrangement for her to pay me back the following week. The time comes where I txt her and ask if there's any chance she can transfer the money back to me and she replied sorry I have my weeks mixed up I don't get paid til next week, fair enough it is what it is. So I wait and get no response or money. Recently she's been messaging me hinting she needs money for various things and i didn't give her anymore money, I left her to rant away. Now it's been weeks since still no money so yesterday out the blue she messaged me so I decided to just ask her if she's got this money and she blanked my text. I seriously lost my shit and sent her a nasty msg saying if u cudnt pay me back u shud of just said but it is Xmas and i cud of done with u paying me back and basically told her to stick it up her arse. Today I feel alot calmer but now I feel guilty about it. Like was I being unreasonable or shud I apologise. I don't actually think she's had any intention of paying me back and it was just the principal tbh. Yesterday wasn't the best of days and i don't know if I just took it out on her either way never got paid won't get paid and now I feel guilty x

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AnnabelleLecter · 18/12/2018 11:11

Don't offer any more money that you need yourself. Glad you don't feel guilty now.
You are allowed to be angry if someone treats you like that. It's how you learn to protect yourself in the future.

TheEmmaDilemma · 18/12/2018 12:16

FFS, can all half of MN do is pull people up on perfectly understandable posts and differences of local vocab?

OP, it was sweet of you to lend the money, but don't do it in future unless it's someone close that you really trust.

justilou1 · 18/12/2018 17:15

I love how people think that Christmas is only happening at their house, and they are the only ones who are going to be tight over this period. Selfish cow. I hope you win lotto. x

Seniorcitizen1 · 18/12/2018 17:49

Threat of small claims court should do it

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