To report a teacher for having an affair with a 16 year old girl 25 years ago?

[jesusperezwept]

The reason I ask is because said teacher is currently going through a misconduct hearing regarding inappropriate relations with another girl at a different school in the same decade as the "affair" at my school. This man is high up the food chain. I have no proof of the relationship, it was just common knowledge. Should I say something to the local council or say nothing?

It wasn’t an abuse of trust 25 years ago because that legislation didn’t exist.

I don't have evidence and although I could get in touch with the girl, now woman, that he had the affair with, I don't think it would be fair on her.

But if you report it, doesn't she have to become involved? You can report that there was a rumor that Mr Smith had a relationship with Mary Jones, but without her confirmation of that, where would it go? It's just a rumor otherwise.

Several at my school and girls were under 16 and at least 2 teachers involved. Teacher at time told me age was 18 was allowed at but not certain that's right. Girls were 13/14. Nothing done when reported.

The reason the law was changed is because these teachers are predatory and are taking advantage - it always was an abuse of position/trust just wasn't illegal before 2001 as long as the child was over 16. It shows a pattern of behaviour so I'd report it to the safeguarding authorities and let them deal with it.

Yes the woman in question may be unhappy at having this brought up.

@jesusperezwept

But why? Why do you think it's your business and your 'civil duty' to report it? Something from a quarter century back that had no effect on you and is fuckall to do with you?

Are you trying to get back at this man (teacher) for something? Has he spurned your advances? Has he upset you in some way?

Why do you want to ruin his life, and possibly the life of the woman involved?

What are you up to?

I would report it though online does say law changed in 2001. Other thing to do would be to message women to let her know and see if she wishes to report.

I'd 100% do something about this.

Who knows, he may have targeted numerous young girls for decades, and some may have been under 16.

@redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 I am a teacher. People like him let my profession down.

I have a daughter. I would be disgusted if an adult in a position of authority made advances on her.

This man is also going through a misconduct tribunal for doing the same thing at a school prior to joining my school.

I find your attitude very strange.

But why? Why do you think it's your business and your 'civil duty' to report it? Something from a quarter century back that had no effect on you and is fuckall to do with you?

Come on don't be silly! It's obvious she thinks he did something wrong and wants it dealt with. If I knew someone had sexually abused a child 25 years ago the fact that it didn't effect me and had "fuckall" to do with me wouldn't stop me reporting it. Obviously this is much less bad than child abuse but OP clearly thinks it's bad enough to be worth reporting.

Personally I'd obviously report it if it was happening now (despite being none of my business according to you) but I probably wouldn't have 25 years as standards have changed.

How about contacting her & letting her know about the current situation.

I don’t think it would be fair on her for you to report it.

I'd definitely report this.

Contact her and let her decide what to do.

It wasn’t given the same stigma it is now so I’d leave it.

One of our teachers was in a relationship with a 17-year-old pupil. He was also married to one of the heads of the house, while having an affair with the drama teacher.

I'd go to the police with that information.

I think it's very bizarre and weird and a bit suspicious that you want to report this man now.

Have you even spoke to the woman in question (who was 16 at the time?)

How do you know she wants it dragging up again?

This is all very odd.

As I said, what are you up to @jesusperezwept ?

I find YOUR attitude very strange. Very!

You have NO right to report this without consulting the woman in question. Keep your sticky beak out of it.

I was at secondary school in the 80 s and this was definitely frowned on then as.well. There was some gossip in my school about one of the teachers who married an ex pupil but she was at least 18 and had left school (just)when they started going out. Even that was considered bit off

If I was the young girl in question and I had moved on with my life with no regrets over what happened (as you do not know her feelings on the matter) and you went and dragged it all up again to satisfy some questionable urge of your own I would be insanely angry with you.
I also want to know what you are up to.

red the OP is bringing it up because he is going through a misconduct hearing and she is concerned it may have been a pattern of behaviour rather than just a 16 year old and a young teacher 'falling in love '

Why do you want to ruin his life,

He ruined his own life(if anything will even happen to him) by sleeping with a 16 yo student(more than one).

It wasn’t an abuse of trust 25 years ago because that legislation didn’t exist.

So if a woman was raped by her husband in the 70's, it wasn't rape because the legislation didn't exist?

I defo give the lady herself the choice. I wouldn't want to be involved in any investigation without it being my choice.

If you don't want to name the girl he had the affair with and have no evidence, I'm afraid there is no point whatsoever in reporting it.

So if a woman was raped by her husband in the 70's, it wasn't rape because the legislation didn't exist?

You can call it rape, but he couldn’t be prosecuted if the law didn’t consider it to be rape at the time of the offence.