Hickey?

[ernjas]

After a rare baby-free night last night, I've woke up with hickeys on my neck.
I've argued with DP about this as I find it so embarrassing for an adult to have hickeys and I have to go to a fairly new and professional job tomorrow.
He's in a mood as he claims it wasn't intentional and I'm being unreasonable to be so pissed about it.
AIBU??!

Side note: does anyone have any ways of effectively covering these???

Turtleneck

I doubt he did it on purpose.
Concealer, or a scarf?

YANBU I don't think it's entirely possible to professional with hickeys. Did you not realise he was doing it at the time?

Work has a fairly strict uniform so I'm not sure how subtle a turtleneck could look but I'm going to give it a go.
@Bambamber I didn't which I'm more annoyed about! They're not very dark hickeys, they're fairly light so easily done, but there's a couple and they're more central on my neck than off round the side so definitely noticeable. I was hoping hair down would cover the things!!

I would be going absolutely mental if that was me, that sort of thing could get me fired!

You don’t give hickeys accidentally, you just don’t. Clothes are the best thing to cover them OP, I’d be too worried about makeup wearing off.

its a bruise so stimulate blood flow by taking hot shower/bath and using a hot compress alternating with gentle rubbing with a soft toothbrush or wash clothe to stimulate refreshing the site with fresh blood flow, caffeine tea bags placed on the site, etc anything to vasodilate the area and get the blood moving again. Try a dressy scarf for tomorrow?

Hold a 2p coin on them. I think you hold the coin for a minute then wait 5 mins and hold it on again for another minute.

@Jammydodger1981 exactly what I said. You can't give them accidentally. With it being a new job and still making first impressions I'm so mortified!!!

My ex used to do this, basically his way of 'branding' me. I find it interesting your DP has done this as you're about to start a new job...

But how did you not notice at the time?!?!?

Arnica cream is meant to help bruised I think.

Why didnt you stop him when he was sucking at your neck!! Hickeys arent exactly done unnoticed.

Unless he did them while you were asleep I’m not sure you can totally blame him!

if anyone notices - a funny story about how you and partner were so excited about starting a new job you "celebrated"?

Yes I should've noticed but as I said they're light so it wasn't major sucking and definitely just felt like kissing. We'd had a few drinks and he was kissing my neck for total of about 10 seconds. It's also not a common occurrence and I always trust him not to give me them as I don't believe they're accidental and he knows that I despise them

Sorry - honestly clueless about this. I'm dark-skinned and I've always wondered why people have such a bad reaction to hearing about or seeing hickies...

What is wrong with them? Doesn't it come from someone kissing or sucking on the skin?

@user1473878824 yes, I don't think I can totally blame him either. It was just a shock of anger when I woke up and saw them!

@insideoutsider they just don't look pleasant at all to me, let alone professional. I'm very pale too so they show up very easily!

I think hickeys happen easier when you're drunk. You bruise easier too. I've only ever woken up with unexpected hickies after drinking!

Put arnica cream on it a few times today and use concealer and a neck scarf tomorrow. It's cold enough that nobody will think anyone of it. Harder in the summer!

Yuck! I would be furious.
I still burn with shame when I remember proudly strutting around showing these off as a teen

@AnchorDownDeepBreath yes it must be, so obviously not completely DP's fault.

@Oysterbabe and yes, I am! Trying to calm myself down and think of solutions rather than just stressing about it!

Would arnica cream help the bruising go down by tomorrow? And is it safe to use on the neck?

This is the first I'm hearing of arnica cream!

You need to go out and buy a turtle neck.

I agree with the others- they’re done on purpose. You don’t just accidentally suck someone’s neck so hard that you bruise it.

Someone was marking his territory, IMO

I think a scarf would be better than a turtleneck.

Completely against the grain, but I do believe they can be an accident. I’ve accidentally hickeyed my husband before - it is easier when you’re drunk. Maybe because you bruise easier, or maybe you don’t realise how hard you’re going.

If they’re light, you should be able to cover them with makeup. If you can get a colour correcting concealer with a green base, that will help :)

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My ex used to do this, basically his way of 'branding' me. I find it interesting your DP has done this as you're about to start a new job...

My very first thought too.