To find some of the posts I'm readying make me cry

[reallymate]

I've just read one about someone's ex anally raping them while they cry and another one about a poor little kid happily waiting for his party invitation while everyone else in nursery got one and never getting one and his later face crumpling up and tears building up in his eyes. Also a comment on another post about Cyntoia Brown saying that the poor traumatised child should her not feel guilt for what she did (racism in disguise) and telling people to make up their own minds about it as if there it wasn't clear how wrong it was and is poor child. I just keep reading posts that are making me so so sad about the state of the world. Not comparing any of these things but why are people so cruel? It just makes me want to give up on the world it's so heartbreaking.

reading sorry*

There’s too much information online. We weren’t designed to have access to everyone else’s sorrows and pain. Just our own and our family and loved ones is enough. But the internet drags us into everyone else’s too.

Awful, isn't it. Sometimes I find myself drawn to MN when I am feeling a bit blue and this place makes me feel worse sometimes. It's like self harm.

Not sure what stories you’re referring to OP, but I have now learned to stay away from thread titles like “AIBU to ask of the saddest thing you have ever experienced”? Because it just makes me feel shocked at what people have been through and get depressed and sickened.

May I suggest an antidote of searching RAOK/Random Acts of Kindness threads? They warm my heart up to no end. Similarly, I love the “Funniest thing kids have done/said” threads and they have me in stitches.

It's accepted these days that the whole class should be invited to a birthday party so no one gets left out.

I didn't see the other post, thank goodness

Should never not feel guilt for what she did* sorry really bad spelling. Yea it's so sad especially when alot/most of it as about men abusing women.

@Auntiepatricia
There’s too much information online. We weren’t designed to have access to everyone else’s sorrows and pain

Can’t remember where I read it and whether it’s true or not but remember reading something about how 24/7 access to internet and constant news is too much for our brains to comprehend and it’s severely damaging our society (I’m putting it in layman’s terms, the actual reasoning I’m sure was more eloquent).

I'll have a look at them @MissionItsPossible thanks

Is not as*

The internet sure is a double edged sword

But remember most of the posts and replies are fictitious.

Here’s one to start you off @reallymate

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3437047-To-ask-for-random-acts-of-kindness-that-youve-carried-out?

Thanks @MissionItsPossible they're making me cry too now

But remember most of the posts and replies are fictitious.

Sadly, yes. Which is why I don’t understand people blindly contributing to gofundme and the like. There was an interesting article about a lecturer in America who set his students a task of making a post viral. One student did so, concocting a fake story designed to get sympathy from Twitter users about a lecturer who cancelled his students final exam to throw a party but nobody came There were so many that gave love and offered to turn up to another party without taking a moment to think about the facts. I.e. why and how would a lecturer have authority to cancel a final exam and throw a party instead and why would nobody turn up if they were expected to take an exam to pass a course they had invested so much time and money in?

Hopefully happy tears @reallymate, though, if it’s making you emotional generally, in the nicest possible way, I say just go offline for a bit.

I don’t know why people say things are fictitious. As if it really matters. People are suffering awful things and even if an OP is bullshitting you can be sure that some if the readers or posters have suffered that exact same thing, they may have simply googled it and landed on the specific Mumsnet thread. So I don’t care if a poster is real or not because every single issue certainly is.

Happy tears (for that) and sad tears (for this) I think I am feeling very emotional it's probably a good idea to go offline.

@Auntiepatricia Imo that’s a naive stance to take. There are a lot of weird, attention seeking liars in the world and the world largely has access to the Internet. As someone pointed out, the Internet is a double edged sword. Plenty of people that get off on misery, child abuse, rape, fetishes etc, who I can imagine will put their own ‘stories’ out there for whatever reason. A thread got pulled recently for being suspicious and possibly a PBP over a ‘workman left a huge shit in my toilet’ thread. As many of the replies pointed out, they’d never heard of such a thing before except on here. Not important in the grand scale of things but the Internet is anonymous. Name changing and easily created accounts make this site even more anonymous. People are hyperbolic all the time in real life, let alone without the added bonus of being faceless behind a username

@Auntiepatricia This is so insightful. I think you're right.

I don't think either of those things were lies. I have had someone (multiple times unfortunately when I was 15) not stop having sex with me until they were done even though I would say stop multiple time's with tears in my eyes. That sounds even worse. I hate anal and found it excruciating. I think it's common and I wouldn't doubt anyone who said they'd had that happen to them. And as someone has said even if is hasn't happened to them it definitely happens to others and it's fucking sad.

Mission, you misunderstood. I wasn’t saying people aren’t liars. I was saying it doesn’t matter if they are.

i think it's anyone who thinks it isn't real that's naive given how many women are raped (in the UK and worldwide). there are probably literally millions of women who have been in that situation and not talked about it - vastly outweighing the reverse by hundreds to one if not more.

There are certain thread titles I stay away from. Sometimes I take a long break from the 'dh treats me like shit' threads because I find myself upset at the shit women put up with and I can't deal with it.

Self preservation.

There are certain thread titles I stay away from. Sometimes I take a long break from the 'dh treats me like shit' threads because I find myself upset at the shit women put up with and I can't deal with it.

Self preservation.

Kind of is like self harm, AF, you're right.

Even though it may upset (or horrify) me, if I can add any of my life experiences then I will avoid nothing.