Not to cross out people in my address book when they have died?

[Iused2BanOptimist]

Doing my Christmas cards. I seem to have reached an age where there are quite a few names in my address book who are beyond Christmas cards. But I don't like to cross them out. Maybe I should get a new address book? That feels bad too. MIL gave us this book when we got engaged and wrote in lots of her side of the family for us. She is no longer with us either. 😢

Yes yes I have lots of contacts on my phone but the book is my back up, especially people like distant relatives etc who I'm not in regular contact with.

A note surely beside their address?

It's not like you're going to forget they're dead and send them a Christmas card is it? I never cross out stuff in the address book, it's nice to remember people and places of yore.

Yes I’d add a note, and date of death if you know it.

Don’t cross them out if it feels wrong, could you maybe put a symbol or something n cut to their names like a star, I’d feel bad crossing out people who had died, keep the book, my mum has the same addresses book from before I was born, it’s sweet

• next to their names Fat fingers small phone!

I have my address labels on my computer. The dead are in grey.

As Kindergarten said, it's not as if you'll forget and send a card anyway (nor would it really matter if you did...) so I'd just leave them as they are.

Is someone trying to tell you what you should do in your address book?

At the risk of being the voice of doom, it's worth mentioning that when you die your family members may use your address book to let people know of your demise and funeral arrangements. So it would be good practice to make it clear which of the people listed have gone.

I still have a couple of relatives phone numbers in my phone even though they are no longer here. I don’t think it matters. You don’t have to cross them out.

I had this dilemma yesterday going through mine. I compromised on sticking snowflake stickers from the kids card making session over the ones no longer with us. I needed it to be accurate for some reason.

I don't. I won't. It helps to keep them there with me. You are definitely not obliged to.

My nephew died 6 years ago now. I still can't bring myself to delete his contact information from my phone.

I don't see what the issue is. Just don't cross them out. Sounds like a nice book of people who are or have been a part of your life.

I can't delete my nan from my phone or others that have died from my address book. Keep them it's a nice memory when you do see the entry

I don't cross them out either, it's nice to see their names and think about them when I see it.

I have my dearly loved cousin as a contact in my phone still, 13 years later and I still can't delete
It.

I was looking at my whatsapp groups and the ones my late husband was in it said "X has left the group" about 6 months after he died. I assume something to do with his phone number being given to someone else then by the phone company.

Leave them there. I still have my Dad in my mobile phone and "Mum and Dad" in the house phone.

It's not an issue. Just part of me feels
I should keep it updated and part can't bring myself to do it. I was interested to know what other people do.

It's up to you but I agree with Optimist.
It could have been a potential nightmare when we were informing people that My sister, and then Mum and then Dad had died if they didn't update their address books. There were quite a lot of people we had to tell that we had to trust the information in the book.

I still have my Nana’s address written down.

I still have my DF listed as a recipient in my amazon account seems so brutal to delete him, many years on

No need to cross anyone out.

I still have all my contacts in my phone of people I have lost.

I also write everyone's birthdays on my wall calender every year. I write all of theirs on too, feels like keeping them remembered and treasured.

Re contacts when you die Optimist1 it's a good idea to have an up to date address book at home. A colleague 's father died suddenly of a heart attack while driving and crashed into a hedge. By the time ambulance etc arrived some person has stolen his mobile phone from the car. It was a huge deal as he was divorced and had Family and friends in his home country and she couldn't trace contacts, she literally didn't know half his life.

I simply can not bring myself to delete my DF's details from my phone or address book, it's too real. Oh blimey now I'm crying. 🥂 toast to us all.