Not to cross out people in my address book when they have died?

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Doing my Christmas cards. I seem to have reached an age where there are quite a few names in my address book who are beyond Christmas cards. But I don't like to cross them out. Maybe I should get a new address book? That feels bad too. MIL gave us this book when we got engaged and wrote in lots of her side of the family for us. She is no longer with us either. 😢

Yes yes I have lots of contacts on my phone but the book is my back up, especially people like distant relatives etc who I'm not in regular contact with.

That word delete is very brutal.

To all remembered who don't need Christmas cards. 💕

I put a single diagonal line through and write R.I.P, they are still there and remembered x

I'm sorry OP but this is sad and somewhat morbid.

It sounds like a new address book wouldn't help because you'll quickly have the same problem. The only resolution is to find a way to mark those that no longer require cards. Perhaps a sticker or even a highlighter?

I can imagine that it's not ideal but you can't buy a new address book every time someone dies.

Sorry LordPickle didn't mean to be morbid.
I'm FAR too lazy for regular new address books
I don't feel a need to update my little book - I know who's with us and who isn't.
But now other posters have made me think maybe I should??? What if I drop dead tomorrow and no one knows who's who? I hadn't thought if that

There isn't really a right or wrong answer to this one. You feel how you feel, they're dead, they won't have much of an opinion on it. I'd put a little note next to the name to remind me not to send a card - but that's just me. Not necessary really.

@Clare45BST I too cry when I move house because my DF won't ever be able to visit...

You don't want one of these stamps then?

It's a tough one. I still have my dad in my phone contacts (nearly 7 years), just can't bring myself to delete him. But others have raised a valid point - we weren't sure who was still alive and who wasn't when a relative died age 99. I mean, most of her friends had passed away, obviously, but were still written in her address book. Tricky situation, so I think I like the idea of an RIP note with the date of death, I'll do this in the future.

I kept my uncle on the wedding invitations list when he died halfway through the engagement. I changed the text to red to show he was unable to attend, but needed to leave his details on the list.

AlphaJuliet123

I recently watched a film where the main character is seen texting a mysterious person, then halfway through it turns out she is texting her dead mum.

Agree that an accurate list is really useful but do understand - I kep the last text messages from my late brother for several years and still ahve hi number in my phone.