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Aibu to be peed off with this question ?

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SandraTheBee · 14/12/2018 16:12

My 13 year old dad has invited a couple of new friends for a birthday sleep over next week. She invited them over 2 weeks ago.
I don’t know these girls and dd sent them my phone number so that the parents could speak to me before hand. I completely under that they would want to do this.

I haven’t heard from anyone.
Today dd comes back from school with the message that one parent wants to know what job I have.

Never in all my years of parenting ( I have 6 kids and dd is the 5th) has any parent asked me this.

I am wondering if it is in fact Katie Hopkins.

I’m pretty pissed off and don’t really want to have to deal with people who make judgements like that.

I have a perfectly ‘respectable ‘ and main stream job. I am a teacher currently working as a TA, but what the hell?

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Original poster
SandraTheBee · 14/12/2018 16:12

Blooming auto correct- read dd not dad!

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autumnleaf1 · 14/12/2018 16:13

Tell her you're a professional hitman

1CantPickAName · 14/12/2018 16:15

I would love for you to tell her you’re a professional hitman

Twickerhun · 14/12/2018 16:15

If I told you I’d have to kill you?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 14/12/2018 16:16

That would naff me off too. I would suggest that they ring you to discuss it if it was an issue, but presumably your 13 yr old dad(!) DD might have already told them. It's very Hyacinth Boquet (sp) isn't it.

MrsMoastyToasty · 14/12/2018 16:16

Tell them that you're a penguin wrangler/dolphin therapist.

KathrynOfArrogance · 14/12/2018 16:18

Dildo factory

SomeBigBaubles · 14/12/2018 16:19

Tell her you're a professional hitman.

This. Please.

kk66 · 14/12/2018 16:20

YANBU - but could have so much fun with this!

EeeByeGummieBear · 14/12/2018 16:20

That would irritate me too...the parent doesn't want to ring you to speak to you. No, just wants to know what job you do 😂 I would be tempted to say hit man too!

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 14/12/2018 16:21

A madame or dominatrix? Kitten drowner and puppy strangler? Yo mamma’s boss?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 14/12/2018 16:22

Just say ‘in between jobs and out on day release’. That’s what I would say.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/12/2018 16:24

Wow.
I cannot fathom any good reason she'd want to know that. What a snob.

Move2WY · 14/12/2018 16:25

Tell them you’re benedict cumberbaths* PA

*insert any better famous person

Move2WY · 14/12/2018 16:27

Maybe she think she knows you from years ago so is trying to work it out-perhaps she has kids you’ve taught before?

MissingSummer · 14/12/2018 16:27

I find it odd that your DD would come home with that message. Surely if your dd's friend said 'my mum wants to know what your mum does for a job' , your DD would just reply 'she's a teacher/whatever'?

I would assume it was just part of a general conversation ('oh, any idea what MiniBee's mum does?' ) rather than a specific 'i need to know what she does before I agree to you going there' kind of thing...? Maybe?!

IamSusan · 14/12/2018 16:38

it's a very weird question to ask directly, they might be from a different culture or nationality where it's not seen as rude to be so direct.

To be fair, it's usually a big clue where you live. Most parents wouldn't allow their kids to visit someone from the wrong part of town. It is less obvious in secondary, but let's be honest, in primary everyone know whose kid come from whose background. I must do the pick up twice a week at the most, and I can still tell what child belongs to whom.

I know posters pretend they accept anyone as they are bladibla, but in real life, most parents are careful who their kids mix with. It can go both ways as well, reverse snobbery is even worst than snobbery.

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SandraTheBee · 14/12/2018 16:38

Yes I really could have fun with it!

I don't know why dd came and told me rather than simply telling her either. It is of course possible that the question was badly relayed like " Oh I wonder what minibee's mum does?"
However, I have never asked that of a parent I have never met because it has no bearing on anything.

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spudlet7 · 14/12/2018 16:39

Agree with @MissingSummer - it's perfectly likely that the parent casually asked their child what you do for a living as part of another conversation with no snobbish intention whatsoever.

Original poster
SandraTheBee · 14/12/2018 16:40

Ironically I live in a very 'nice' village a stone's throw from the very 'nice' town where they go to school.

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Hillarious · 14/12/2018 16:40

Tell her you're in the TA.

SparkyBlue · 14/12/2018 16:43

Years ago my cousin came home from school and told my aunt that X in her class was told by her mum that my cousin and other girls from the estate where they lived were okay to mix with in school but not to be friends with them outside of school. Lo and behold when my aunt and cousin met this girl and her mum in the supermarket didn't my aunt know the woman as they had grown up as neighbours on another council estate. Sorry no help to you @SandraTheBee but just goes to show there are some bizarre snobs out there.

Ated · 14/12/2018 16:52

Say you are a Bio Remediation Specialist.

Oliversmumsarmy · 14/12/2018 16:53

If you pay the bills and run the household then you are in Financial Management

Member869894 · 14/12/2018 16:53

Tell her to tell her friend that she's not sure but mum has a probation officer if she needs to talk to her