AIBU to put my foot down!

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For the first time in 8 years I have Christmas day just me, my DH and our 4 year old DD....I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so want us to have special family time with our DD before baby comes.

At my mum's boxing day this year, and MIL is coming the weekend before, everything planned, booked and paid for so I have been busy nesting and getting the house ready for what we had planned to be a nice relaxing break.

Cue text from SIL telling us that as promised she will be coming this Christmas with her 2 DC (4 & 8) and new DP who we have never met.

WTF....DH got the text, was quite shocked and I knew something was happening when he said "now don't stress"....

Apparently after a conversation with her MIL told her that it had been a while so would be nice....EVEN THOUGH SHE KNEW OUR PLANS.

I have put my foot down and said a categorical NO! This Christmas is about my DD and I have planned it all around her. She has struggled with the concept of being a big sister and been quite clingy. She is excited about being a big sister but I know that it will be hard for her to share us.

DH is currently on the phone, it started quite cordially but now there are raised voices, I have just got a grovelling text from MIL apologising for interfering that I am ignoring it.

I would never dream of inviting myself somewhere, this is really quite stressful.

AIBU should I just let them come? Bearing in mind I don't currently have enough Christmas food on order for 8 people.

I just really wanted a special family day :(

I expect one of these rare occasions on here where everyone agrees with you.

YANBU in the slightest and good for you not caving in!

Loud

I have an open invitation to certain people they all know that they are always welcome and there will be a place at the table and food for them if they want to come but those are people who I know will fit in with the day and who are easy and lovely to be around, some of my difficult arse hole family members have never been given that offer because they would ruin the day because they are not nice people.

Iv never told them your horrible so your not invited I just don't extend an open invitation. If they would like to come that's fine but I'd expect them to ask with enough notice to have food etc in for them.

If the kids come though anyone else who comes knows there is nowhere for them to stay the night unless they are happy in a sleeping bag on the floor as the blowup mattress and the couch are already spoken for!

You are all giving me a right chuckle, I am the youngest of 4 kids, all of us at some point have hosted at Christmas, had dinner parties etc...nothing luxurious and it is usually all hands on deck. DH Sister is the oldest of 3, one lives abroad and tends to visit at cheaper times of the year but SIL has never once hosted anyone, in fact in 8 years I have been to her house twice and that was to pick her up and drop her off.

When MIL hosts she sits in the lounge with the Sky remote glued to her hand and used to expect her XH to handle the children, he divorced her at the beginning of the year so now MIL does the cooking and the childcare. DH got annoyed with her at MIL birthday and told her to look after her kids or go home. She reluctantly started to help out and look after her children - how good of her!

I think MIL knew we were not going this year and couldn't bear a Christmas with SIL so she booked the trip. I am not cross at MIL I think she just panicked, have spoken with her and she is deeply sorry but glad we stuck to her guns.

I am so glad I get my lovely Christmas, this baby just has to stay cooking a little while longer lol