To help my bf pay the rent

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Is it okay to help a new bf to pay his rent? Would others do the same?

No don't do it. Lending money to friends usually results in you not being friends for much longer when you don't get the money back

Why does he need the money?

Is there an income difference between you?

How new, is new?

How long together?
How often at his?
Why doesn't he have the money?
Who normally spends in the relationship ie nights out?

Absolutely do not do this.

It's a red flag him even allowing you to.

You immediately change status from gf to mum if you do.

Don’t do it. You’ll probably never see the money again and he’ll tap you up for more whenever he’s short.

Context?

If he's had a genuinely unavoidable unexpected expense and needs 50 quid til payday and you trust him maybe. If he is spending beyond his means and can't afford to pay you back quickly then no.

Is he asking you to do this? If so, what is his reason?

I can't think of one good reason why a bf or gf (especially a new one) would ever ask that and there's no good reason I'd ever pay it.

Well, maybe one; if you are spending the majority of time at his place, eating his food, using his elec and gas. And by majority, I mean like 5 days/week. Especially if you aren't paying rent for your own place.

How new is new Op? How long have you been together ?

No it's not ok ...be aware

I wouldn't but I don't know the circumstances.

New bf. absolutely not.

New? Nope.

Would need more Information- why? Do you stay there?, how long have you been together?, do you both work?

Additional information needed really

To be honest as a general rule of thumb - don't ever lend anyone anything you can't afford to lose.

Fuck no. Don't be a mug, FGS.

Context? One off as he lost his job and has a new job but a deficit for the period of not working. Maybe. I’d be asking why he can’t get a loan. Long term? Well no.

You need to elaborate.

New boyfriend? Don’t do it. If he’s decent he wouldn’t expect you to and shouldn’t accept it. If he’s not decent this won’t be the last time he leeches off of you.

How new? Do you live with them?

No; don’t set that precedent. After some bad experiences I would be very cautious moving forward. I’m also wondering if he asked you or told you about it in a way that was subtly asking.

New boyfriend?

No.

If its that you spend most of your time at his place and it's likely in the near future you'll end up living there I would help him out expences come up etc and your spending time at his place things probably go up (even just a little) in regards of utilities. I would be doing it as a gift though not a loan as you'll grow resentment when he can't pay it back even if in your head it's a gift whereas to him he thinks it's a loan.
A few weeks in and you go round once a week sorry no and it'd raise questions I never wanted a wealthy man just one who can manage what he gets properly.

Dump him and run, the guy is testing you to see how much he can fleece you for. I've been married for over 10 years op and my dh never asked me to pay his rent while we were dating.

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