to not go to work Christmas do because I look awful?

[Cinnabun]

7 weeks post partum. My body I worked so hard for is not looking great anymore. Huge flabby belly, lopsided boobs, huge thighs and bum covered in cellulite. I was toned and could wear anything before I got pregnant. I also felt amazing whilst pregnant. Sexiest I've ever felt.

What the hell do you wear when you look like this? WIBU to just not go? I feel so self conscious and actually a bit embarrassed by my body. I'm like a sack of potatoes and just want to cry...

Don't go. You won't enjoy it so spend the evening at home with your new baby.
Be kind to yourself you've only just had your baby.

I really WANT to go but just feel so ridiculously unattractive. If I could find a magic dress that made me feel confident and genuinely hid my belly (entirely) I would go in a heartbeat.

It's just not going to happen...

you can find a magic dress. u should be proud of yourself you just gave birth to a beatiful baby. just go.

Lots of grooming and a floaty ish top or dress and you’ll look gorgeous.
How different in size are you to pre pregnancy do you think?

OP most peoples body takes a battering after pregnancy and birth, it's a huge thing. What about some kind of sparkly cardy type thing to cover the lumps and bumps? I honestly wouldn't be hard pressed to notice whether anyone is a bit tubbier. Get your hair done and loads of slap on. As for cellulite bum etc - you weren't planning on a nudist party? It's your secret!

^^ would be hard pressed.

If you really want to go, YABU. No one is going to expect you to float in looking like Beyoncé. You just need to find something comfortable but stylish that covers up the bits you feel self-conscious about (I bet you still look great) and go all out with your hair and make up.

I went to a wedding 6 weeks after having my baby and seriously felt like shit! But when I got there some kind people said how amazing I looked after just having my baby and that boosted my confidence no end, I'm glad I went, do all you can to make you feel like semi you and go have some fun xx

I don't think you should go or not go - that's your choice and at 7 weeks post partum I really think staying at home is ok!

BUT - I would feel really disappointed if you have just had a baby and would let your body put you off going - your amazing body has grown actual new life! It's an incredible achievement, be proud of what it's given you. I'm sure you look rocking. Put a couple of hours into your hair and make up and get out for an hour, your team will be so pleased to see you and you'll feel better for putting the effort in I think.

Of course you should go, strong spanx and bright lipstick will do wonders! I went to 2 weddings at 6 weeks post partum. I felt a bit blobby but everyone said how amazing I looked and looking back I didn't look as bad as I thought, I was just paranoid!

Remember OP, you’re hyper-aware if the changes. Your colleagues will have no idea how toned/firm/cellulite-free you were so won’t be comparing! They’ll just be pleased to see you

Awh, I bet your colleagues don't think the same as you! Besides, they want to spend time with YOU, not your belly. There's more to you than a few stretchmarks (tiger stripes), and besides your body is amazing, you just made a human!

My approach in these situations is to aim for cute or Earth Mother rather than sexy.

I honestly just want to go in jeans and a jumper...

Would you have fun if you were happy with your body? If so then I'd go, your colleagues will be happy to see you and I bet that you look great for 7 weeks postpartum!
But if you'd rather hibernate with your baby, that's fine too. It's very early days and you should be kind to yourself, you and your baby are doing a great job.

I've never had a baby but I'm always in total AWE of women who are out and about within a few weeks of giving birth. You are amazing!

You've only just had your baby, you're still recovering, be kind to yourself.

Tempted to start another thread:

WIBU to go to fancy work do in jeans, flats and a jumper so I can actually enjoy myself?

Find a wrap dress unless you are large of nork, they are really flattering.

How about wearing something simple. Then pair with some nice make up, jewellery and get your hair styled - that always makes me feel great!

Where jeans and a Christmas jumper, no one will bat an eyelid, they all know you've only just had a baby, plus it's festive!

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Sucks doesn’t it

You undoubtedly look better than you think and everyone will be entirely preoccupied with how they look and their lumps and bumps to look at yours, especially after some booze.

Get some spanks and an industrial bra, wear black and you’ll be good to go!

Enjoy a night out!!

I would wear jeans, jumper and flats (can’t wear heels anyways). Long jumper or something festive. Fitted/maternity jeans, Some accessories etc.

Oh and a good bra!

What about a skater or midi skirt and a nice jumper? Won’t cling to you and you’ll be comfy but still can be glam. I’m sure you’re being hard on yourself, you’ve done an amazing job and you’re only 7 weeks post partum. I know it doesn’t help but talk to yourself like you would a friend.