My baby looks nothing like me...

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I always used to joke about this with my friends. My DH has a daughter already who is a spitting image of him and looks nothing like her mum. It was always the running joke that our son would be the same...

Turns out this is the case and my son looks nothing like me. I'm mixed race with quite dark skin and DS is pale as can be with blue eyes like DH.

AIBU to think he's the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen, but to also be a bit sad that I look like the babysitter?

None of my babies looked like me, one does a bit now they are an adult.

Ur DH must have strong genes, my children look the spit of there dad.. ul get used to it.. he's urs doesn't matter what he looks like..

My baby looks EXACTLY like her father. I'm in there nowhere. If I hadn't been there when she was born I'd think they'd subbed one in

Perfectly reasonable to be a bit sad! Maybe they'll start looking more like us as they get older...

My baby didn’t look like me at all. I’m Indian and DH is white. I remember taking him out shopping and people would stare as he was so very white with light hair.
He is 3 now and has started to get some of my features and his hair has darkened

My ds looked so like his dad at birth that the midwife laughed! He's 17 now and is basically a clone. They even share many of the same interests. I was a bit sad, but I think it's sweet now.

Your baby is SUPPOSED to look like the father. Mum knows she's mum cos she was there at the birth. The only way dad knows is if baby looks like him. This means dad is more likely to protect and nurture mum and baby

My children don’t look like me either.

I read somewhere that this is an evolution thing. That babies are designed to look their dads so they aren't rejected.

Robyn Wilder has written about this OP - she’s mixed race and her older son has the colouring of his blonde and blue eyed father. She as written some really thoughtful pieces about it.

Oh none of my 4 look like me, absolutely agree with PP that if I hadn’t been there I’d think they’d been subbed in!!!

My no4 is starting to slightly look like me now at age 9

DC1 has DH's blue eyes. Logically I knew it didn't work like this but I was sure DC2 would get my brown eyes. She has blue eyes too. Both of them look just like DH and I'm nowhere in there now. Quite common I think.

Haha knittingsister id like to think we live in a world where knowing dad's are the father is based more on trust rather than the baby looking like them!

I personally think more children look like dad's, not sure why. And also why would you look like the babysitter? There are plenty of mixed raced children where mum is white and dad is (for example) African.

@TrippingTheVelvet
Wow, that's so interesting how did I not know that..

As TrippingTheVelvet says, it's an evolutionary thing, not just the world we live in today!

My DS looks a tiny little bit like me if you squint, but he looks a lot more like his dad, and even more like his lovely aunt, his dad's little sister.

I was once accused of being the nanny at a tourist attraction, fraudulently using her employer's yearly pass, as DS and I are not the same colour. You can imagine how well that went down.

How old is your DS? To begin with DS looked like such a mini-me of DH, but already (he's only 5 months) I can see more of me and my family. Also, in my (limited) experience most babies start off much fairer than they end up so as he gets older he may also have more of your colouring.

When I woke up from my GA after my section and was handed my baby, he looked so much like my mum that I knew he was mine 😂he is looking more and more like his dad the older he gets, but with my brown eyes. I think it's sweet to see them together looking so alike

@rubaduhlo that's just how you're made to feel.

About 2 months ago my mum was introduced me to an acquaintance and they asked her if I was adopted. I grew up with people asking my mum 'are they yours' or asking similar questions about fostering and adoption. It gets tiring and I don't want it to be the same with my son.

The fact that there are millions of mixed race kids out there doesn't seem to stop some people from being ignorant as sin!

Could be worse. My firstborn looked just like my MIL at one stage
Then looked like DH
Now morphing into a teen that looks more like me. Poor kid!
Children are unique. It’s amazing watching them change and grow.

Nightmare for those supermodels who marry ugly old billionaires

I have very dark hair and eyes but one of my children is pale blonde and blue eyes. I can't see me at all but I quite like it.

Dd2 is basically my mother reincarnated nothing of dh there whatsoever

How old is the baby?

We also have a mixed race baby who came out looking exactly like DH (he's white, I'm not) but over the years has changed and looks like more a of mix.

My BF's children look nothing like her. She is asian with quite dark skin and the DC are all very pale skinned. She is often assumed to be the nanny or, she suspects, to have stolen the children

Both mine looked like their dad for about 2 weeks and now there is no similarity whatsoever and are both the image of me. I think babies change so much but I was a bit miffed when I couldn't see myself in them