My baby looks nothing like me...

[Grapef]

I always used to joke about this with my friends. My DH has a daughter already who is a spitting image of him and looks nothing like her mum. It was always the running joke that our son would be the same...

Turns out this is the case and my son looks nothing like me. I'm mixed race with quite dark skin and DS is pale as can be with blue eyes like DH.

AIBU to think he's the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen, but to also be a bit sad that I look like the babysitter?

I think it's cool when siblings have different skin, hair and eye colour from each other.

My DC look like peas in a pod. It's a bit boring.

DD2 is the image of my sister, except when she pulls one particular face at which point she turns into DH's younger brother. Actually turns into him.

Very disconcerting

My DC look like peas in a pod. It's a bit boring.

You don't live in Midwich, do you?

If it helps none of mine looked like me at all when they were babies but now as older children and teenagers they are unmistakably mine !

My DC look like peas in a pod. It's a bit boring.

My oldest and youngest (DD1 and DS2) used to do the face swap filter thing on one of their apps. There was no difference. (That may change now DS2 has an adams apple and is sprouting whiskers).

DS1 is the cuckoo in the nest.

There have been quite a few reported cases of hospital staff giving babies to the wrong mothers so if you strongly sense that something is amiss then by all means go ahead and check but if it's a vanity thing then as someone else has said all babies look like angry potatoes and in addition to that, mixed babies tend to change colouring like seasons change. I was born with dark hair and dark eyes. Many decades on I have blond hair and blue/green - I'm half white, quarter Arabic and quarter black.

All these effin babies wreaking havoc on our body for 9 months, giving us heartburn like the fires of Mordor and ripping the shit out of our vaginas on their way out ...only to look like their dads.

DD looks nothing like me either. Shes got all my personality traits though lol

DD2 was the spitting image of dh when she was a baby and toddler.. Now at 18 she has my profile so strongly that even my father struggles to see who it is on pictures.

She has his beautiful brown eyes but the rest of her now is my genes.

DD1 looks completely like my late mother in law nothing of me in her to see at all

DD is the spitting image of her father. Nothing like me at all. I look very different from all my siblings, so was a bit disappointed not to have a relative who looked like me. However my DNiece is my image, everyone assumes I’m her mum and it’s lovely. My sister had a dream when pregnant she gave birth to a little girl that looked like me and we laughed about it because I’m most definitely the odd one out. But these things be strange things

There have been quite a few reported cases of hospital staff giving babies to the wrong mothers so if you strongly sense that something is amiss then by all means go ahead and check

Yeah, I was about to say "Hey, as the mother, at least you know for sure it's yours", but if you gave birth in a hospital, there's some risk.

(Probably not if the baby looks a lot like the father, though.)

I’m a secret mixed race child I look extremely Celtic however my mum is half Indian and everyone thought she was my nanny (au pair) however I’ve grown up to look and sound a lot like her xxx

There have been quite a few reported cases of hospital staff giving babies to the wrong mothers so if you strongly sense that something is amiss then by all means go ahead and check

Not sure how this would occur these days as from memory they band them literally as soon as they come out irrespective of the escape route but it would be the most likely explanation for one of mine. My first was 20 years ago and even then the band was placed immediately they were lifted out and placed on my chest. My friend only had C-sections and she said it was exactly the same in the theatre. Maybe the bands come off at some point due to babies losing the initial fluid load and get mixed up if not rooming in or something?

Unless it’s pretty much immediately afterwards not sure why anyone would pursue it and check though? If I’ve had the wrong kid for 20 years then tough luck, they are not being swapped at this point and I would not be interested in ‘replacing’ them with the biological version. Quite certain my child would feel exactly the same in regards to the parental aspect. I would have thought most people would think like this from the first few months onwards?

HoppingPavlova Even so, don't you admit there is at least a small part of you that would want to know in that instance? My post was slightly facetious as I recognise the unreasonableness of nascent mothers.

Even so, don't you admit there is at least a small part of you that would want to know in that instance?

Nope, absolutely none. In fact if I was ever in that situation when my kids were younger we would have immediately been on the first flight out to a country that we had no extradition agreement with. Luckily I have skills where most countries would have taken us for residency no problem but staying put for some court shit show to have our child taken or to have some time share agreement imposed, nope, no way.

Two of mine look like me, although I see DD’s father in her more. The third is a genetic anomaly I reckon, blond hair, really tall- literally nothing like Dh or me! Yesterday I was out with my niece and it’s clear that he and she look almost identical! So clearly his genes come from my sister- although my niece doesn’t look like my sister- she looks like her dad!

Now, there’s no way my son looks like my sister’s husband, so I came to the conclusion that faces are weird and people see and make sense of what’s in front of them.

Have there really been "quite a few" cases of people being given the wrong baby?

Me and dh are both dark haired and ds is bright ginger. Couldn’t count how many ‘swapped at birth’ comments I’ve had. It’s tedious.

My eldest looked like her Dad at first. She looked like his sister who I'm none to fond of! Now she's older, she looks very much like I did as a child. It took looking at some old pictures to see it though.

It's just one of them things for us. All three of my children speak like I do and often use little phrases that I do. I'm very wordy apparently and so are they. That's my influence. Appreciate it all gets a little more complicated when race and people's pig-headed perceptions come in to place.

You're their mum and you have so much influence. Concentrate on growing some kind, confident humans (that can bat off people's daft comments)

Bert I was being rather facetious. I don't doubt it's beyond the realms of probability but then again neither is winning the Euromillions

Neither of mine do either... Midwife joked to us - no need for Jeremy Kyle here! Second one was uncanny, it freaked the whole of both families out!

I look just like my brother and sister and we have different mums!! Our Dad's genes are incredibly strong! My DD also looks just like my sister, so the genes just keep flowing through!