To lie to a rescue to get a dog?

[ShitOnItx]

I visited my local rescue alone and was given lots of time and attention. Told them I had children a nd was told to bring them in as they can't rehome any dog without meeting the kids at the rescue first.

When I took my kids they totally blanked me and told me no dogs were available to kids (youngest is 8) and were very dismissive.

I also have to being my dog but she is a nervous dog and I know the last place to make a calm, happy introduction is at a place full of barking dogs and smells.

A dog has gone onto their siteand she is perfect. An older spaniel dog, calm, says she is so laid back with other dogs and I've fallen in love with her (as much as you can from a photo and description)

I just know if I go back with my kids and my very shy dog who is likely to just try and run away from the noise they wont let me have her.

You can foster. So would IBU to go with my friend and get her to foster the dog but bring her to my house?

My kids are at their dad's this week so she will have time to meet my dog calmly and she will have some time with it just being us before the kids get back.

I feel like they don't give families with kids enough of a chance.

You can't lie and foster a dog that they haven't willingly placed with you. As lovely as a dog looks they will have their reasons for not wanting to place that dog with children. Your children could get hurt or maybe that dog needs a calm quiet household or will be stressed and unhappy. I think you need to approach a few more rescues rspca etc have blanket policies on children other smaller rescues judge on a dog by dog basis. It isn't juts about what's right for your family but what's right for the dog involved aswell. Rescuing rather than buying a puppy is a wonderful thing to do.
Keep looking he right dog will no doubt come along x

They vet Fosterers, it's not a quick thing. And it's so underhand OP. And maybe by the time you returned next day the dogs who were ok with kids were reserved. At my centre dogs get reserved really fast. But they do get dogs 'good with children'. I really wouldn't lie. It will end up in you getting a dog not the right fit. And you aren't putting the new dogs needs first either which is worrying.

I would
Some of them are ridiculous, I wasn’t allowed to adopt a dog last month because my whole house hold had to visit the centre first. One house hold member is permanently bed bound so this would be impossible, didn’t think this would be an issue considering the circumstances and the home visit that would follow, however was told I would not be eligible and not to bother 🙈

and what if the dog bit your child because it was upset/stressed. What would happen then?

They try to do what is best for the dog, not humans

I couldn't believe it when we went to get a rescue - our old rescue had just died aged 14, we have a cat, four acres, horse etc and they said it wasn't there policy to place with children terriers. Our (then) 2 and 5 year old had, had many nips off the old devil and learned to respect him. We had to go and buy a puppy which was a shame as all our animals had been rescues up to then.