Reading homework EVERY night

[GingerSwan]

My DS is in year 1 (so 6yrs old) and lives between 3 houses. Mine, dads and grandparents. This is dictated by a child arrangement order.

I don’t know about other schools but in my DS’s school they have to fill in a reading log every single night and have two lots of English/Maths homework a week.

I think it’s a lot but when he’s here at home it’s doable, however his grandparents don’t do it with him. They’ve been told time and time but I can’t physically force them.

The teacher is getting more and more agitated about the reading not being done some nights a week. I’ve contacted school twice now to inform them of the situation and they appeared understanding, but the reading log is still getting more entries about this than about the quality of his reading.

It started off “Please remember to read every night if you can ” which feels friendly and reasonable but now it’s “Remember to read EVERY night!!” (Double underlined as well)

I just find it really passive aggressive at this point, I know it’s frustrating for her but I cannot do anything to change it except tell them repeatedly which I do and they aren’t even my parents.

I have severe anxiety which the school is aware of and I’ve had support meetings etc. And my poor DS has dealt with a lot of deaths close to him lately and was struggling to concentrate so I contacted the school regarding that too. They know it’s hard at home at the minute. I’m finding the notes to be upsetting now even if the teacher thinks they’re nothing here nor there

I know I’m being sensitive but AIBU? I’ve popped a note in for her to read tomorrow saying to contact me if there’s any problems

if you can get the other adults in their lives on board then I would say the situation needs to change immediately

Since it's been to court she obviously couldn't get the other adults on board!

If the GPs can’t commit to doing the reading then they shouldn’t have the children

Not the OP's decision to make

Do the GPs read him stories? Play with him?

He's doing well. I honestly don't think it's the end of the world as long as he's reading mist nights. What if he had clubs?

And the teacher should be well aware of his home circumstances.

I would reply in the same reading book that your child lives between 3 houses and if they choose not to do it when he's not with u there isn't a lot u can do. And I would repeat this every time

If you are going to do extra reading do you have time to do it in the morning?

That way he will be reading every day. Obviously I have no idea how hectic or other wise your mornings are but say he goes to GPs on a Monday. Monday morning listen to him read. If you drive to school then he can read in the car.

If you walk then read adverts / posters at the side of the road, the names of shops you pass.

Another idea would be to buy him some books to keep at the GPs, so he might not be reading his school reading book but something else.

I'm guessing his writing isn't great either but you could get him a sticker or a stamp he can put in his log.