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...or can my DS have a sandwich for dinner?

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Merryoldgoat · 10/12/2018 17:04

I’m knackered.

My baby is sick and not slept two nights in a row (3 hours sleep total each night which isn’t enough for me).

My 5yo DS has asked for a sandwich for dinner. He’s Autistic and getting food down him can be a massive challenge so I usually ensure a ‘proper’ dinner but I can barely keep my eyes open.

Can I just give him a PB sandwich (which he’ll eat NO problem) yoghurt and save myself some work?

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formerbabe · 10/12/2018 17:30

When my ds was a toddler, I was really ill...like proper flu ill, with no one to help me one night. He had a bag of crisps for dinner Blush. He is nearly 11 now and has emerged unscathed from this!

Purplehairdontcare · 10/12/2018 17:31

Oh and fwiw it's worth, I survived unscathed.

Arrowfanatic · 10/12/2018 17:31

Sound a fine to me. My kids will often have cereal for dinner as I have an illness which when it flares up leaves me in agony and my husband works long shifts and you can guarantee I'll get a flare up when he's on late shifts (so not home till after 3 kids are all in bed) and the best bit, they can make it themselves.

It's still food, as long as they're not hungry and you're not giving them a meal of Haribo and coca-cola I think you're good. Xx

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Merryoldgoat · 10/12/2018 17:34

Thank you again - sandwich being ingested along with yoghurt and apple.

And probably a Penguin Blush

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4point2fleet · 10/12/2018 17:38

My DS has two full cooked meals a day (breakfast and lunch) at school, so he has cereal and fruit every week night.

Win all round as far as I'm concerned.

FrancisCrawford · 10/12/2018 17:40

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littlemisssunshine81 · 10/12/2018 17:42

My two and tucking into their picnic dinner as we speak! Go for it!

ShadowHuntress · 10/12/2018 18:49

All 3 of my dc have a chest infection which they have now passed on to me. They’re kind like that! Today I made them toast with chocolate spread, yogurt and fruit for lunch and the exact same thing for dinner. That’s the only thing they seem to keep down without vomiting. Don’t even feel bad about it. We’re all exhausted as we’ve all had broken sleep since last Thursday. I just didn’t have the energy to make tea. They’re all off to bed soon for an early night

Howhot · 10/12/2018 18:53

It's fine. DS asks all the time! I do some veg sticks or fruit on the side. Nice and easy

SnuggyBuggy · 10/12/2018 19:12

I can think of much worse can't be arsed dinners Grin

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 10/12/2018 19:16

My DD only wants a houmous sandwich with a side of cherry tomatoes, followed by a yoghurt, for breakfast and supper at the moment. She gets a hot meal at school, so I’m not going to fight it.

JustABetterPlayer · 10/12/2018 19:28

Healthier than a McDonald’s, it’s fine.

howmanyslippers · 10/12/2018 19:32

I'm absolutely exhausted, and my dd has asked for a ketchup sandwich for tea Confused. She wants ketchup with everything, and she's so fussy with meals and I felt a bit bad giving her that for dinner but I know for sure she'll scoff the lot so that's what she's had plus other snacky bits.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 10/12/2018 19:38

Of course! Does he eat a hot meal at school? If so then do it more often and give yourself a break. We do it once a week on the night my 2 oldest have late clubs and they love it. I usually add some cut up veggies on the side, and if feeling fancy pay out the bread, some cold meat/ eggs/pate, some hummus or dip plus veggies (crudités/ cold roast veg/ pickles, whatever we have really) on a platter and call it a smorgasbord 😊

malmi · 10/12/2018 19:40

Heat isn't nutritious, so it doesn't matter. But some fresh vegetables/fruit would be good. Carrot sticks?

Tryingtothinkofaclevername · 10/12/2018 19:54

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MorningsEleven · 10/12/2018 20:14

Do it. My ASD one will only eat 3 meals

  • pasta
- nuggets with chips - pizza but does snack on frozen peas. Tired of that battle.
Worieddd · 10/12/2018 20:15

Sounds absolutely fine!
Don’t feel guilty Smile

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Merryoldgoat · 10/12/2018 20:50

Stuckforthefourthtime

I wish he’d eat school dinners - he’s extremely fussy as he has food sensory issues and we are making progress but tonight I just didn’t want the fight.

Baby has a fever and DH is settling the 5yo. I’m getting in the bath as soon as he’s down. I feel like I’ve been in a fight.

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Oysterbabe · 10/12/2018 20:52

Sounds fine, I wouldn't think twice.

halfwitpicker · 10/12/2018 20:53

Of course

halfwitpicker · 10/12/2018 20:53

I feel like I’ve been in a fight.

^^

Grin

Aka motherhood

IncyWincyGrownUp · 10/12/2018 20:55

Our go to ‘broken day’ meal is chocolate chip brioche and whatever fruit can be scavenged from the fridge. Sometimes it’s enough to make sure there’s food inside them. Don’t beat yourself up.

I hope you feel better after some kip.

Ragwort · 10/12/2018 20:55

Of course it’s fine, I can’t stand the (Mumsnet) obsession with ‘proper’ dinners. Food is food.

CmdrIvanova · 10/12/2018 20:59

Fussy eating is exhausting, all by itself without the other shit you have going on. My fusspot eats about 3 hot meals (and none of them while they're actually hot or even slightly warm) so sandwiches and picnic dinners feature fairly regularly.

user you are having it extremely tough but Toast Night (it deserves capitalisation) is genius.