Being sad about cancelled plans..? And what can I do...?

[ChachachaBoom]

It was my birthday over the weekend. I've had a fantastic time with some friends and their families and I'm very lucky!

But I had plans with my boyfriend tomorrow and booked a day off work especially as I told him I'd love to spend time with him. He's cancelled the plans. This actually happened mid of last week where we had plans. So now I'm left not having seen him for my birthday (which meant a lot to me) and with another day off work which is wasted and will be spent alone. I do not have kids and I'm alone often so there's not much of a novelty in this for me.

Aibi to be a bit annoyed? And can anyone suggest what might be nice to do rather than moping all day? I'm short on money at the moment so nothing too expensive.

You say you understand that he couldn't really avoid cancelling with you. If that's the case then you need to reframe it more fairly and remove the blame from him. It's not that he let you down but that life got in the way. That is of course only the case if it really was unavoidable, for example where he has to look after his children or attend a commitment for them. Is this the case?

It's not so much that he's been an idiot cha-cha. It's more that we doubt whether he actually cares! What did he get you for your birthday present? And is he going to take you out somewhere special to make up for letting you down?

Other posters and I can only go on what you've posted - how much of a let down it is today that he has had to work and how you have had to turn to the internet to think of some way of filling your time, and the fact you stated weekends are alone and also and I'm alone often.

It does seem a reasonable assumption for people reading those thing, to make. I find your comment quite presumptive and mean.. No-one is being mean nor presumptive. Posters are replying to what you have written.

It's horrible having a boyfriend who lets you down. It ends up you can't even look forward to plans because you are just worrying about whether it'll actually happen or if he'll cancel. He's not making any effort here and you need to have a serious talk with him. And yes actions always mean more than words.

Two years!?! and he isn’t ready for you to meet the kids

And he “tried his best”

Honestly this is symptomatic of something bigger.
You sound like you have had a rough time and aren’t clear on what good standards/treatment of each look like in healthy relationship

Nowadays I’d probably be walking away but 5 years ago I’d definitely similar to you

I’m sorry darling but he really is “just not that in to you”.