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Original poster

to think PDAs in church -just wrong?

41 replies

cloobydooby · 09/12/2018 20:04

just been to the local carol service that was also for families, in a London neighbourhood. had to sit next to a couple in their 40's where the man constantly grabbed and stroked his partner, they kept kissing even when prayers were being said, then (to top it all!) the collection went round and they didn't put anything in it! or am I just a prude?!

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 09/12/2018 20:06

No you aren't a prude but I wouldn't be too bothered by it.

Also they may have a huge standing order that goes to the church every month?

RoboticMary · 09/12/2018 20:07

Definitely inappropriate.

3out · 09/12/2018 20:08

Snogging, or peck on the cheek or hand?

Shepherdspieisminging · 09/12/2018 20:09

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cloobydooby · 09/12/2018 20:09

proper snogging at times.... sitting behind them so didn't have much choice to avoid it all, it was like being in a cinema!

OP posts:
Twickerhun · 09/12/2018 20:11

The Collection thing is a non issue. They might contribute by direct debit or not want to - it’s not compulsory - Jesus is ok with stuff like that
Otherwise YANBU

greendale17 · 09/12/2018 20:12

Not appropriate in church. Probably the type of people who show their face once a year at Christmas

TSSDNCOP · 09/12/2018 20:13

I don't even like the hand-shaking we have to do these days. I cringe inwardly with every "peace be with you"

Sparklingbrook · 09/12/2018 20:13

Does Jesus not approve of kissing?

DH and I kissed in church when we got married. Shock

KindergartenKop · 09/12/2018 20:14

It's ok at a wedding. For the bride and groom.

Sparklingbrook · 09/12/2018 20:14

Phew.

3out · 09/12/2018 20:15

Snogging is too much. I don’t think it’s particularly the Church issue which is offensive, I’d find it inappropriate in many public places (in school, Drs surgery etc)

clowdyweewee · 09/12/2018 20:15

Nasty.

Athena51 · 09/12/2018 20:18

There's a bit of a difference between kissing at your wedding when the point of the ceremony is celebrating your love for each other and practically shagging in the pews at a family Sunday service.

Sparklingbrook · 09/12/2018 20:20

Yes, shagging might be a bit much. Perhaps they were just feeling the Christmassy love.

incallthebloodytime · 09/12/2018 20:22

Time and place

This wasn't it.

It's fine to have PDA's that are cringeworthy but people can tune you out, avoid you, or not be distracted

It's not even like a cinema where you can get up and move or leave - because you are obviously there as you feel a "need" to go to church

You wouldn't snog in the office, you wouldn't snog at a doctors appointment, you wouldn't snog in an interview... there's always a time and a place

anniehm · 09/12/2018 20:29

Not appropriate but got used to all kinds of odd behaviour at Christmas - from people trying to buy tickets on entry to boxes of quality street being passed down the pews (and the wrappers deposited in the hymn book holders! The drunken behaviour at midnight mass means we have four larger male members of the congregation posted at the door

WraithBabe · 09/12/2018 20:47

I don't even like the hand-shaking we have to do these days. I cringe inwardly with every "peace be with you"

These days? This has been done in church since I was a baby.

JeezYouLoon · 09/12/2018 20:52

My non church going DH thought it was 'pleased to meet you' and no one has ever told him any different!
I've since put him straight but he still insists on saying it Hmm

masterandmargarita · 09/12/2018 20:53

I think the Christmas spirit was making them feel loved up. Nothing wrong with that

3WildOnes · 09/12/2018 21:06

I hate the handshaking too! I don’t like touching anyone who isn’t my immediate family.
As other have said the collection is a bin of a non issue, as most regular church goers give by direct debit and visitors wouldn’t be expected to donate.
PDAs as you describe are inappropriate pretty much everywhere.

Nanny0gg · 09/12/2018 21:14

I don't even like the hand-shaking we have to do these days. I cringe inwardly with every "peace be with you"

Loathe it with a passion!

VeggyGravy · 09/12/2018 21:16

Does Jesus not approve of kissing? DH and I kissed in church when we got married

Well a kiss on your wedding day isn't quite the same as groping your partner for the length of a service is it? Hmm

I'm an atheist and even I'd be Hmm about that OP.

VeggyGravy · 09/12/2018 21:17

I think the Christmas spirit was making them feel loved up. Nothing wrong with that

PDAs with a captive audience aren't nice or fair to the people forced to be uncomfortable behind you.

Sparklingbrook · 09/12/2018 21:20

Thanks for the clarification VeggyGravy Smile

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