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to think PDAs in church -just wrong?

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cloobydooby · 09/12/2018 20:04

just been to the local carol service that was also for families, in a London neighbourhood. had to sit next to a couple in their 40's where the man constantly grabbed and stroked his partner, they kept kissing even when prayers were being said, then (to top it all!) the collection went round and they didn't put anything in it! or am I just a prude?!

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stayingaliveisawayoflife · 09/12/2018 21:27

Possibly a couple meeting in secret? There is a couple who do this at the cemetery by my work at lunchtimes. Meet up, sit on bench, snog frantically for 15 minutes then leave five minutes apart. ( I go for a lunchtime walk so see them often!)

Gwenhwyfar · 09/12/2018 21:39

YANBU, but then I was shocked and disproving of much less than that, a couple just staring at each other and doing things like stroking their shoulders! Had never seen that kind of touch in church before.
I am a prude though.

Lizzie48 · 09/12/2018 22:21

That really is disrespectful behaviour; there is a time and place for that kind of behaviour, a church isn't a cinema. I would find such a display very off-putting, if it took place at a church I was at on a Sunday.

However, with regards to the offering, DH and I give via Direct Debit, so we don't give on a Sunday morning.

MaisyPops · 09/12/2018 22:24

I find adults who are all over each other in public really irritating in general.

Small PDAs are fine and context dependent (so not during the prayers in church). There's very few occasions when it's fine to be all over your partner as an adult. It shows no respect for anyone else around you.

theWarOnPeace · 09/12/2018 22:40

On sports day last year a mum and dad were slobbering all over each other, it was so inappropriate and gross. What made it slightly worse was that the mum was wearing the skimpiest little camisole top without a bra, hot pants and flip flops, she could t have been wearing less clothes really. Her partner had his hands absolutely all over her and they were snogging and pawing at each other between relays. Urggg I don’t think anywhere public is the right place for it really, it would drive me mad if someone was doing it in a cinema!

Lizzie48 · 09/12/2018 23:27

I agree that even the cinema isn't exactly appropriate for PDAs, I wouldn't like to witness it personally, but it has a reputation for couples canoodling in the back row. I simply meant that it's more appropriate than a church service.

HestiaParthenos · 09/12/2018 23:31

Does Jesus not approve of kissing?

Didn't Judas betray Jesus with a kiss?

It is rather insensitive to do something he associates with betrayal all while he is crucified, unable to move and has to watch.

incallthebloodytime · 09/12/2018 23:38

Could you imagine if someone did that in a mosque? Or a temple? Or "insert other places of worship"?!

Without referring to ancient times and temple prostitutes

BackforGood · 09/12/2018 23:56

What does PDAs mean ?

As others have said I don't get your outrage at not putting anything in the collection. FIrstly it is totally free choice, and secodnly, many members of Churches give directly through the bank or by monthly or quarterly or even annual cheque so wouldn't necessarily put anything in the collection plate.

Nowt wrong with holding hands, but a full on snog seems out of place - as it would anywhere public, tbh - a restaurant, a football match, a library, a concert, etc etc.

incallthebloodytime · 10/12/2018 00:00

@BackforGood public displays of affection

BackforGood · 10/12/2018 00:02

Thank you

sacreJaune · 10/12/2018 07:33

As long as they weren't homosexual. They have no place in Christianity!

Gwenhwyfar · 10/12/2018 07:40

sacreJaune - depends on the denomination. Many are accepting of homosexuality these days. The Unitarian church where I live has a gay network.

sacreJaune · 10/12/2018 07:44

"Many are accepting of homosexuality these days"

Wow!

Selective reading of The Good Book amazes me.

It seems like things are moving on.

Should we still hate women? I struggle to keep up.

Gwenhwyfar · 10/12/2018 07:49

sacre - the Good Book has always been read selectively.
I don't think there's much about hating women in the Bible actually, a few things that were typical of the time, rest of it came from big churches.

sacreJaune · 10/12/2018 07:56

"I don't think there's much about hating women in the Bible actually"

There's a shit ton. My favourite is the bit where a man offers his daughter for gang rape to save a guest being gay for a night. I learnt so much from it. I try to live my life by His teachings. For this is the word of The Lord. Amen.

"The owner of the house went out and said to them, “No, my brothers, ... this man is a guest in my house...Look, let me bring out my virgin daughter and the man’s concubine, and you can use them and do with them as you wish. But do not do such a vile thing to this man.” But the men would not listen to him. So the man took his concubine and sent her outside to them, and they raped her and abused her throughout the night, and at dawn they let her go.…"

Please tell me you aren't a fucking Christian.

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