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To lie for a DP being investigated by police

99 replies

lboogy · 09/12/2018 16:25

Entirely hypocritical and inspired by the recent post about Ian Huntley wanting a sex change.

I was always torn by the vitriol towards his partner Maxine who lied to the police for him. At the time I thought if I felt the police were trying to stitch up my DP and I was convinced he was innocent I might just lie to protect him. I might even do it for a child if I felt they were innocent.

What say you?

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MrsSchadenfreude · 09/12/2018 16:27

Do you mean hypothetical?

YABVU.

OutragedERIC · 09/12/2018 16:28

In the investigation into the disappearance of two young children?

No.

puguin86 · 09/12/2018 16:28

If they are innocent surely they don't need you to lie for them ?Hmm

Iruka · 09/12/2018 16:28

I can’t understand anyone who would do anything other than fully cooperate in an investigation into the murder of children

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 09/12/2018 16:28

I've always thought the same thing op

Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2018 16:29

If someone is truly innocent, you don't need to lie. If you were that concerned about their rights being violated them you retain a solicitor, but you NEVER lie to the police. You WILL be found out and it will only make things worse for the accused/suspect.

Elllicam · 09/12/2018 16:30

I see what you mean, if you were entirely convinced that they hadn’t done it but couldn’t prove they were innocent. I think I might. It depends on what the crime was of course.

Elphie54 · 09/12/2018 16:30

If being investigated for something serious? Absolutely not. The truth always has a way of being found out.

insancerre · 09/12/2018 16:30

No
I wouldn’t lie
I wouldn’t be able to

Topseyt · 09/12/2018 16:31

Hypothetical?

No. Don't lie to the police. Tell the truth as you understand it, and give all facts. To do anything else is idiotic and puts you in the wrong.

I hope this post is a wind up.

Flowerpot2005 · 09/12/2018 16:31

He wasn't selling drugs or being a bit of a bad lad, this was about the deaths of two young children ffs?!

So if your partner or DH was involved in a similar situation, you're basically saying you'd lie for him? I think you're absolutely bonkers tbh.

Isitweekendyet · 09/12/2018 16:33

I would go to the end of the world for DH.

But lie about his whereabouts in the case of missing children?

I'm afraid something I'd have to pass on.

Topseyt · 09/12/2018 16:34

You're right that Maxine Carr lied. Look where it got her!

Not that I think she was Miss Innocent anyway. She was certainly in a relationship with an utter scumbag though.

Pachyderm1 · 09/12/2018 16:38

No, because you don’t know what the consequences of your lie could be (like, for example, that you’re protecting a child murderer). The truth will out eventually, and an innocent person shouldn’t need you to lie for them. In fact, a decent person wouldn’t let you.

ScrambledSmegs · 09/12/2018 16:38

I don't think there is a situation that I would lie to police investigating a serious criminal case. Even if it was for my kids.

It would break my heart, but no, I wouldn't lie.

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 09/12/2018 16:39

Nope. If they were asking you to lie or provide false alibi that would ring alarm bells surely.

DGRossetti · 09/12/2018 16:40

I think Mrs Christie lied for her husband.

Didn't really turn out well Sad

Nicknacky · 09/12/2018 16:42

It wouldn’t even matter if he was eventually found to be innocent. By lying you would be attempting to pervert the course of justice regardless of his guilt or innocence.

Do you honestly think you would be so stupid?

CountessOfNowhere · 09/12/2018 16:42

I think she was probably totally under his thumb. I wouldn't lie for my DP like that, but then I'm not in a controlling relationship.

DRE56322 · 09/12/2018 16:44

I would not lie. If I had a real alibi, I would give it. If I did not, I would say so and let them carry on their investigation.

BasilFaulty · 09/12/2018 16:45

Yeah because it worked out so well for Maxine Carr didn't it. Hmm

Shepherdspieisminging · 09/12/2018 16:47

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dippledorus · 09/12/2018 16:49

I wouldn’t lie.

OrgyofSausages · 09/12/2018 16:50

Do not lie. Firstly, it's morally and legally a crime. Secondly, they will find out. For sure.

lostinjapan · 09/12/2018 16:52

I’m not convinced she’s as innocent as she makes out. But even if we believe her story, she still knowingly derailed a police investigation into the suspected abduction and murder of two little girls (who she knew quite closely). If you’re going to do that then you have to face the consequences.

And no, I can’t imagine lying to the police under ANY circumstances, not least in a child abduction/murder case!

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