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To be pissed of?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 11:44

So we are meant to be going to OHs Mum and dads today we usually go every Sunday.
His dad asked him to work today but then cancelled so he went to there house instead sat there from 7 this morning he's only just got back in.

He said he doesn't know what the problem is!
Aibu to be pissed of? We're already going there today he could of just come straight back home.

He's had a nice full English breakfast been driving his mums new car while I'm stuck at home doing everything.

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LoniceraJaponica · 09/12/2018 11:49

I'm a bit confused. Does your OH work for his dad? Did he go to his parents house instead of working or coming home?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 11:51

@LoniceraJaponica sorry! Yes he works for his dad he went to there house instead of just coming home.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/12/2018 11:53

What?

Hadalifeonce · 09/12/2018 11:54

Sounds like the visit has been done, you now have no requirement to go there, do you?

CoughLaughFart · 09/12/2018 11:54

Can’t you just not go today seeing as he already spent yesterday with them?

Nicknacky · 09/12/2018 11:55

So what’s the problem with him seeing his parents and not coming straight home?

Purplehairdontcare · 09/12/2018 11:57

Yanbu but you'll get loads of people telling you that you are.

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:00

Think I'm confusing everyone!

We usually go over on a Sunday and bring the kids and stay for dinner.
But his dad asked him to work this morning so we was going to go over when he got back.

On his way to work this morning at 7 his dad cancelled but instead of coming home and getting ready and all going together he's sat their messing around all morning being waited on by his Mum Hmm

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Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 09/12/2018 12:00

So presumably you don't have to go, so you can have a nice afternoon?

Nicknacky · 09/12/2018 12:01

I’m not confused. So what exactly is the issue?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:01

@Nicknacky it's just frustrating he does it all the time does it after work as well. Instead of coming home goes there has something to eat then comes home two hours later.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/12/2018 12:03

What's wrong with his mum looking after him? Do you mean he should be at home helping you with the dc or something else?

Just go aswell Confused

Nicknacky · 09/12/2018 12:03

I can see why that would get annoying but this morning wouldn’t bother me at all. But then I’m leaving h and kids this afternoon to go out with my dad just the two of us

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/12/2018 12:03

Another drip feeding thread. Hmm

DarcieStarlight · 09/12/2018 12:06

So you are annoyed that your husband has a good relationship with his parents and goes there for breakfast and sometimes a meal after he finishes work?
Are you only happy when he is within your vision?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:07

No we're still going because his Mum hasn't seen the kids.
It just seems like if he can get out of coming back home and helping out he will jump at the chance.

He said to me he was just going to pop in for a coffee at 7 walks back in half 11.

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Nicknacky · 09/12/2018 12:10

You were expecting him to be out anyway, and half 11 isn’t late. How old are the kids?

WorraLiberty · 09/12/2018 12:10

Is this because you don't get enough child-free time yourself OP?

If so, you two need to come up with a fairer plan.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/12/2018 12:10

You need to swan off with your mates for a few hours OP. See how he likes it.

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:10

@DarcieStarlight no that's not the case I have so much uni work to do aswell and he knows that.

I'm not crazy we don't need to be together all the time I'm just fed up I do everything it's not hard to just come straight home and help out.

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mommybear1 · 09/12/2018 12:12

Pack him off with the kids to his parents for lunch and have the afternoon to yourself- get your uni work done ✅

DarcieStarlight · 09/12/2018 12:15

In that case exactly as a pp suggested, send him out with the kids for the afternoon and get yourself a few hours of me time to enjoy.
Or arrange to see your own friends and let him stay at home one weekend.
As long as this isn't a case of you trying to control him then he is being unreasonable.

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:18

Think so @WorraLiberty it's just so hard feel like I'm doing everything on my own.

Yeah I'm going to @mommybear1 otherwise I will never get anything done.

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 12:18

He's just gone again left both of the kids didn't say anything to me. Angry

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Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 09/12/2018 12:24

So he came home for 45 minutes and then went back without the kids?

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