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AIBU?

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To be pissed of?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 11:44

So we are meant to be going to OHs Mum and dads today we usually go every Sunday.
His dad asked him to work today but then cancelled so he went to there house instead sat there from 7 this morning he's only just got back in.

He said he doesn't know what the problem is!
Aibu to be pissed of? We're already going there today he could of just come straight back home.

He's had a nice full English breakfast been driving his mums new car while I'm stuck at home doing everything.

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CrazyOldBagLady · 09/12/2018 12:26

I think I get where you are coming from OP. This isn't an isolated incident, he just checks in and out when he likes knowing that you will be there to pick up the slack with the kids and the household when he doesn't want to. I reckon he owes you 4 hours on your own so you can have some time to yourself. Make sure you claim back all the hours he gets on his own, then he might think twice before sloping off.

Hippywannabe · 09/12/2018 12:27

Where has he gone? Call his parents and let them know they can keep him?

Nousernameforme · 09/12/2018 12:28

go and drop the kids off then come back

Nanny0gg · 09/12/2018 12:28

So he can take the children this afternoon and you can stay home.

You need to have words and he needs to listen.

CrazyOldBagLady · 09/12/2018 12:30

Yes go and drop the kids off or get someone over there to come back and pick them up.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 09/12/2018 12:31

Are you able to take the kids round and say you can't stay as you have studying to do?

Arbies22220 · 09/12/2018 12:31

Tell him that as he had some down time this morning you will be taking yours this afternoon - then leave the house and potter round the shops/have coffee etc and leave him to it. Don't tell him when you are coming back and leave him to sort the kids/visiting his parents etc.

I totally get where you are coming from - it's ridiculous and i'm sure if you did the same thing he wouldn't be happy about it!

cigarettessuffragettesandboys · 09/12/2018 12:54

Yanbu

SoyaSoy · 09/12/2018 13:18

Eh? They're his parents! My DH practically lives at his dads house. It's fine. It's nice!

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 13:18

Yeah your absolutely right if I ever did that to him he would be absolutely furious.
Whenever I pop out I just do what I need to do and come home.

I've left the house now so nice to see him struggling at the front door with both the kids fussing

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/12/2018 13:29

I've left the house now so nice to see him struggling at the front door with both the kids fussing grin

Is he back again?

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winterspice · 09/12/2018 13:44

@GreatDuckCookery yeah he came back and I left right away.

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CrazyOldBagLady · 09/12/2018 15:35

Good for you! Maybe time for a serious chat when you are both home and calm and the kids are in bed.

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