AIBU to be pissed off this?

[BeanieWeanie]

So, FIL & partner invites myself, husband & 3 children (5,3,2) to christmas dinner. He now says as my children are fussy eaters, can they have their own dinner before they arrive.
I really dont like the idea of this as they will actually eat the dinner, (just a few extra sausages and less turkey & brussels).
I think thats pretty rude, its a special day for the kids most of all and i dont want them being excluded!
To make matters even worse!!! Hes invited BIL & SIL and their son (2 and also a fussy eater), who ALL WILL be eating Christmas dinner at the table!
However FIL is now moaning their isnt enough seats for everyone anyway so regardless my children cannot eat their.

Sorry for any confusion, miss punctuation or spelling mistakes, im getting ready for work and i needed to get it off my chest before i explode infront of a customers face.

I’d suggest habing Christmas dinner with your family and join in-laws afterwards or on Boxing Day

I’d say thanks but no thanks,it doesn’t sound like he genuinely wants you there. Stay home and have a nice time

YANBU, and your DH sounds like a prat.
He should be telling his DF in no uncertain terms that he will be eating with his children and if that's a problem then you'll visit after lunch or whenever is most convenient for you and your children.

the answer to that is, we all come and eat or we dont. im sure staying at home with the kids playing, watching movies etc sounds better. stay in your pjs all day and enjoy the day!

Your wet lettuce h's guilt trip would be like water on a duck's back to me. There is zero way I'd go to this FIL's home for Xmas dinner. Fuck that. 'We've decided to start our own tradition of Xmas at home this year.' Done.

It sounds cruel actually, Treating his grandkids so differently. I wouldn't go and arrange to see them Boxing Day or something.

My eldest is a fussy eater and won’t eat anything other than the stuffing and mash on a Christmas dinner. She’s having Christmas tree shaped chicken nuggets instead, with mash and stuffing. There’s no reason why he can’t feed the kids as well! But if it’s a seating issue, can you get some stools or chairs to take with you, even if the kids sit at a different table?

FFS I would just say 'It will be easier if we pop in and see you at teatime' and stick to that. With calm, smiling refusal to discuss it any further. Make sure your H knows that it is non-negotiable for you and DC, though if he is desperate to have Christmas dinner with his father, he can go by himself.

Just don't go. Stay at home and let the kids play with their new toys.

I’d have Christmas at home. I’d also be telling dh that the first time he tries to make me feel guilt he’ll be packed off to spend Christmas with his dad and partner.

The whole thing about Christmas dinner is the sitting together, wearing silly hats, telling terrible jokes and spending time together.

Don't go! Stay home and have a lovely family Christmas. You can all do whatever you want. If your DH makes a fuss send him to his dad's for the day.