Husband let my breastmilk defrost

[Lilymoose]

AIBU? He has a problem with not being able to shut the freezer door properly and has ruined loads of home cooked food in the past, been told multiple times to shut the freezer door properly. It's not hard. Not broken or anything he is just careless.

Anyway I've been pumping every day for over 2 months since my daughter was born to build up a supply for when I go back to work. He didn't shut the door properly and about a third is over half defrosted. I am so angry! He said sorry it was an accident then told me to stop going on about it (I wasn't, it just happened). I am just fuming, he doesn't understand why it's a big deal.

Jesus I'd want to murder the prick. My DH knocked over a bottle of EBM almost 3 years ago and I can still remember the rage!
He sounds like a careless dickhead though, one accident is one thing but a pattern of useless dickheadery requires a serious Talk.
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Boring update, he has bathed the baby and toddler and given them both bottles from the defrosted milk. I really appreciate all the support I haven't even mentioned it to him since just before I started this thread I was just so pissed off when it happened and am feeling better by hearing some kind words from people who understand so thank you so much!

Btw it's good to check that your baby likes frozen milk (sounds like she does). Apparently some milk has an enzyme in it that makes it taste bitter after it has been frozen. We lost a load of frozen milk when we moved (vendors were four hours late moving out) but it turned out she wouldn't have taken it anyway.

Glad you feel better OP

Pumping is hardly ‘grotesque’.

The poster said the experience was grotesque and she, quite frankly, can describe her experience in whatever terms she chooses.

Id recommend pumping while he gives the bottle to keep up supply if your baby is going to be doing a lot of bottle feeds, and then freeze the new ones.
I would be really upset too

^ That's one of the worst comments I've ever read on here. Foul.

Weird quote from an incel there

Reported the troll.

OP is it just the freezer he is careless about? Who cooked the food that went to waste? I’m guessing you? Has he always been like this or is it new?

Some people just can't seem to help it, they're clutzes. Like shouting at somebody because they dropped something of value, unless they were pratting around on purpose with it, they might just be a bit clumsy. Subsequently hounding them for an accident that can't be undone isn't a recipe for a happy time. I have a friend who always caught heat for being clumsy and awkward with stuff and he ended up being diagnosed as dyspraxic at about age 40.

Yes but it's a freezer door that he keeps leaving open. Nothing to do with being clumsy. Thoughtless more like.